I really care for my boyfriend and he is ready for me to be with him on a more intimate level but that is something i am not ready for what do i do and how do i tell him that i need more time
2007-08-31 05:42:55 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him you're not ready, if he really cares for you like you think, then he'll be supportive of your decision.
2007-08-31 05:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by hanner4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell him that you aren't ready yet. If he can accept that and stay with you until you are, then that's great. However, everyone is ready at a different time in life, if he is starts to push than let him go. It means that you two do not want the same thing right now, and he and you would be better suited with someone that does.
Take care, and do not do anything that you don't want to do.
2007-08-31 05:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him what you just told everyone who sees your question on Yahoo answers. You tell him that you really care about him and that you love him, but you're just not ready to take things to the next level. Tell him that you need more time and if he cares about you at all, he should understand and stop pushing for things.
Best of luck.
2007-08-31 05:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by Mayuka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just simply tell him that you are not ready. If he really cares about you he will understand. If he doesn't understand, then you are better off dumping the guy. Don't ever let a guy convince you that you have to have sex with him to keep him. This is a true test of just how solid your relationship is. Save the sex for marriage and be honest.
2007-09-08 03:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like that. Tell him that you are not ready for waht he wants and you need him to slow down a bit. Tell him that you care deeply but that you want to take your time. I f he cares about you he will understand, and if he's not understanding than your feelings of slowing down would explained. Follow your heart honey because when it comes down to it, the only person that will always be in your life and that you will get he best advic from is yourself. You are the only person that you can truelly count on so follow your gut, it's usually right. He'll understand and if he doesn't-then piss on him.
2007-09-08 05:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same position. My BF asked me to move in with him. I told him that I am not ready for it just yet but will discuss it at our anniversary. That will be in Oct.....he asked me a month ago. In this time I am weighing my options...the pro's and con's. If after that time I still feel that I am not ready then I will tell him so.
You have to do what is right for you. If he truly loves you then he will wait and respect you until YOU are ready.
2007-08-31 05:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by freed1one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you really care about him, but that you aren't quite ready to take that next step. If he really cares about you, then he'll understand and won't push the issue - he'll wait until you're ready. If he pushes the issue though, you should consider moving on. You don't want to be with someone who makes you do things that you aren't comfortable doing...
2007-08-31 05:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chaka just be as open and honest with him as you can. Firstly it is your body and so the decision is up to you. Secondly if you are not comfortable and ready to advance to next level you have every right to let him know that. If he respects you at all he will honour your wishes. But if he is selfish and controlling then he will probably attempt to make you feel guilty. Do not allow your personal beliefs and morals to be dictated to and be proud of your morals.
2007-08-31 05:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,you just tell him...straight out. "I care for you,love you, but I am willing to wait.I am willing to wait because I am not ready for intimacy. Do you understand what I am saying and how do you feel about my answer?"
I mean you have that right,if you are not ready,you are not ready.He has no right to pressure you. You are being you and if he can't understand that ...then he can just find another.Not trying to break up the relationship,but I am just saying...it is your choice.Whatever your decision is , you let it be your decision and don't have sex only because he wants to.You do it cause you want to...if not it want be worth having.
2007-09-08 04:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by lhpretty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're not ready...
It's good you know within yourself you're not ready, follow your instincts and you will be HAPPY, believe me. I wish I would have followed mine and I would have saved myself from sleeping with some F*U*C*K*I*N*G* JERKS!!!!...take care of yourself first and be happy with yourself, when you are happy with who you are, you don't need to please anybody. Tell him you are not ready to go to the next level. If he runs and looks for someone else then let him ...he wasn't good anyway. If he keeps pushing you and gives you all the excuses in the world of WHY YOU SHOULD do it with him, then KEEP YOUR HEAD UP and tell him I ALREADY SAID NO! I'M NOT GOING TO DO IT AND THAT'S MY FINAL ANSWER!
Don't let him play with your feelings...take care honey.
Good luck.
2007-08-31 06:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by Diana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋