How could he not care?
I have/had a crush on a guy at work. The thing is we used be close friends and I started liking him as more than a friend and I told hm . I got the since that he liked me too since he always flirted with me and cracked jokes, etc. But, he has a gf in the Phillipines whom he is engaged 2 since I helped him get the ring for her. He only gets to go back there once every 2 years and I think we started experiencing sexual tension since we had a convo about doing it. I called him a dog since I thought he was comin on to me but then he denied he was serious bout it and said he was kidding. Iwrote a letter apologizing to him but then he started ignoring me. He said I should focus on someone else and it's best that we no longer be friends since I was 2 weird & obsessive bout him. I emailed him saying that we were both wrong for talking about sex, he blamed me for being weird. i got mad and told him not to b my friend. He said not email/talk 2 him unless work relatd. we're ignoring each other.
2007-08-31 05:35:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you don't sh*t where you eat. you don't bark up at someone else's tree.
lessons are there, if you're willing to learn.
2007-08-31 05:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that the friendship has ended is, probably for all intentions and purposes, a good thing. If the relationship would've continued, his engagement could've been jepordized. It's probably that he doesn't care about things and he shouldn't have called you weird and put all the blame on you, but the best way to stop an affair is to completely cut off all communications with the person. He has a fiance, and you two has already been too close for comfort, leave things be. It's probably best that you are no longer talking to him on a regular basis. His advice was right--focus on someone else; he's a dead end. Don't waste your time pondering whethr or not he cares or how it was wrong of him to do this or to do that. Just move on.
2007-08-31 12:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mayuka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, He Has A Girlfriend, Who He Only See's Once Every 2 Years? Did I Get That Right?
I'm Getting The Feeling He Is Feeling Guilty About The Conversation You Two Had. Just Move On. Make New Friends, And Forget Him. He Obviously Doesn't Seem Worth It.
2007-08-31 12:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by maddie yehh =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You knew already that the guy has a fiancee and you guys started talking about sex? How did he come on to you anyway? Well, best thing to do is to forget about the guy. It is sad that you lost a friendship because of the awkwardness and misunderstanding but there's nothing you can do if that's the way he feels about you. Just go on with your life and forget about him. Like he suggested, find someone else who doesn't have a gf and who is interested in you and YOU alone.
2007-08-31 12:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh for heaven's sake, grow up will you?
Yeah, you blew it girl.
This guy isn't for you - he's engaged to someone else - Philippines notwithstanding.
Wise up. that's what he did - wised up.
Time to go fishing in some other pond.
In the meantime, keep your communications to professional/work related issues only from now on. Maybe, just maybe, with time and effort and aloofness you could at least be distant friends.
But for now back off and look elsewhere.
Oh - and let this be a lesson - don't date your coworkers even if you want to. In other words, don't sh!t where you eat.
2007-08-31 12:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this is for the best. He has a girlfriend that he only sees every two years and you helped him pick out the engagement ring for her? This is a weird situation and can't end well. Sounds like ignoring each other is a good thing to do.
2007-08-31 12:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by sweetdreams99279 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but since he's engaged he doesn't really have to care. You're a friend yes, but he's got a fiancee, she kinda out ranks you. And he's probably backing away from you b/c he doesn't want to betray his girl. I know you're hurt and he probably shouldn't have accused you of being weird or whatever but you do need to focus on someone else and move on
2007-08-31 12:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realistically, you set yourself up!!! You knew this guy had someone else, yeah, I know you thought you had a chance because his fiance is in Philipines but the moral is it was wrong!!! You knew he was someone elses man.
Take this as a learning lesson!!! He is actually doing you a favor. If you would of continued to deal with him he would wind up hurting you!!!
Do not deal with him no more, it will cause other problems, Know your worth!!! You deserves some that is going to love you and only you!!!
Love yourself!!!
2007-08-31 13:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by seeking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bebe, sounds like he is looking at his relationship with you as a mistake. Fact is that he is engaged to another and it also sounds like he would like to be faithful unto her. So move on and find a single partner and not someone who has a partner already regardless of how far away she is. Besides if he was to cheat on his current girlfriend with you, then who's to say that history wouldn't repeat itself and then end up cheating on you. Best of luck.
2007-08-31 12:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, your only going to make yourself look and feel worse if you persue it, just let it go and do what he said, focus on something or someone else. We have all been the depserate needy girl and it sucks and it hurts but the more you dwell the worse it is.
2007-08-31 12:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cant care cuz he already cares about someone.
he is respecting this girl thats in the phillipines.. dont get in the way.
hes doing everything right.
and im sure you wouldnt want something like that done to you if it was the other way around... so respect his decision and move on
2007-08-31 12:41:23 · answer #11 · answered by LoLo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋