Tonight my fiance left to hang out at a mates place a guy apparently and I called and he hung up on me but not properly and I heard him talking to a girl he knew from the Gold Coast (ex girlfriend) who has tried to break us up twice before. I heard alot of the conversation that was going on then he finaly realised the phone hadnt hung upand hung up. We have an 8 month old together wat should I do?????? Also we have our whole wedding booked for December this year.
2007-08-31 05:30:32 · 24 answers · asked by Kmumofr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Talking isnt cheating and I a firm believer in innocent until proven guilty so until you know he cheated on you dont treat it as if he did. Just ask him about the situation and you never know he might have a perfectly reasonable answer for you. I dont know how you are with him "Talking" to girls but maybe he thinks you will get mad for just talking or maybe you have in the past. If you are marrying him then you need to talk to him and work out your issues if there are any there before you commit to each other.
2007-08-31 05:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by ATM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow … I wouldn’t go with the “once a cheater always a cheater” thing cause that’s not always true. You have to decide what you want and if you feel you and him can get past this. I agree you should never marry a person because of a child because it usually doesn’t work out and in the end the child suffers. Trust is very important in a marriage, and if you feel you can’t trust him, you shouldn’t marry him.
I wish you all the best....
2007-08-31 05:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by always_sweet_b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should call him on it. Tell him you heard the conversation and you know he was with his ex-girlfriend.
I'd postpone your wedding. If you are living together, stop. Let him know you are serious....that he can't have you and that type of lifestyle. If he wants to be married to you and a father to his child he needs to settle down and make decisions based on what is important.
I would not marry him until you are satisfied that he is true to you and you alone. You cannot begin a marriage with lies and distrust...it will undermine your love and be a horrible example for your child.
2007-08-31 05:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by Misty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married. Once a cheater always a cheater. Be there for your child, it will be hard because you have a child but that's not a reason to stay together. Did she tell you, that is a nother reason to break up if she made that mistake she should of at least came to you and told you herself.
I'm really sorry for you, but you will find somebody who will be truthful and faithful to you!!!!
2007-08-31 06:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Natasha P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking is not cheating but lying is a problem! First of all, if you don't trust him... u don't need to marry him because all you're doing is preparing yourself for a bunch of heartache. Please sit down with your fiance and talk to him for at least and hour to figure out wtf is going on. If you heard him talking to a girl that's one thing BUT at the same time since he's your man... try to believe in him that he would not do something like that. Unless you heard him say, "and yes I cheat on her all the time or I cheat on her" please don't say he's cheating. Stand firm and don't trip just approach him levelheadedly and say, hun wtf is going on? We're supposed to be getting married in such in such amount of time and I can't trust this that and the third. Ask him seriously, do we need to postpone this wedding until both of our heads are on straight? See what he says, be prepared for the best and worst and don't get discouraged if he said he was talking to some girl... she's the past and you're the future. If she steps across the line again... start a major plot against her... find her and kick her butt! j/k BUT women who are reoccurring offenders don't deserve to get "put back in the pocket". Remember this: she who is not involved, makes no decisions in your relationship. She has violated on 2 occassions and deserves what she gets but ur man has to understand that you aren't going to stand for him allowing another woman to sway your feelings about your relationship. He must control HIS issue... she should never be your concern. Good luck honey!
2007-08-31 05:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by Benny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you stay with him expect to hear those conversations more often, either find a way to be ok with it or leave him. Do not show your baby that this is acceptable. Start canceling the wedding, and you might be able to get half of your deposits back. Run away.... run fast... don't look back
2007-08-31 07:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you live together than I'd leave until he comes to explain himself. But tell him what you heard and that it sounds like he's cheating and if he can explain himself. I'd say the weddings off till you can trust him and the answers he gives you. Just think it's better to know now rather than after the " I DO ".
2007-08-31 05:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by Marge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, talk to a lawyer and get your child's future wrapped up tight.
Then kick his cheating butt out the door. He's not ready to be a husband and father - and you deserve better.
Oh - and no arguing, tears, threats, ultimatums or drama. Just get the legal stuff - child support etc. - straightened out first. Then calmly pack his stuff up, put it on the sidewalk and change the locks.
You really do deserve better.
2007-08-31 05:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you what to do. You know that he 1) lies to you and 2) still has ties to the other woman. Can you deal with it long-term? A wedding can always be canceled. A marriage is much harder to "cancel". Think about it.
2007-08-31 05:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really concerned about this, you need to talk with him and let him know what you heard. If he gets defensive, you need to rethink those future wedding vows. He should be open and honest, just as you should be about anything that is troubling you or him.
2007-08-31 05:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by Maggie May 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋