Is it strange to not have had a single serious relationship by the age of 22?

Question

I'm asking this for a friend who asked me for advice but I don't know how to answer her, any advice? Thanks :)

Answer 1

Not necessarily in this day and age. People tend to want a career with a stable income before they start looking for their Mr./Miss right.

Answer 2

No, Your friends' still young, and shouldn't be worrying about serious relationships. If it happenes then ok.
Having a serious relationship can be a hassel at a young age. Everyone under 22 should more be thinking about how they're going to be supporting themselves if the worse should come. Like having a degree of some sort, or atleast a good steady job.
The average person lives from about the mid 70's to late 80's. Meaning by the age of twenty-two you've lived a quarter of your life without a serious relationship. Sounds like alot, but if you think about it half of that time you were thinking boys/girls had cuties.
Then from 13 to 17 your a minor. You can't even get into a club to pick a guy/girl up. At 18-20 you can get in but can't drink, or gamble. So basically that leaves you two years were your legally an adult in every aspect.
Two years, and for some still going to school.
After that you have 53-67years to have as many serious relationships as you want.
But you mite just find that special someone the first time around, and only have one serious relationship.

Answer 3

No, not at all. You have to meet the right person before a relationship can become serious. Friends first always, but it may never lead to a serious relationship. Sometimes a person can have a picture of what they want in a man or woman and if that picture isn't perfect they may never have a serious relationship. Everyone goes into a relationship with certain baggage and often doesn't look for the good in a person, because everyone isn't perfect. Right?

Answer 4

What would be the opposite of that? Having two out of wedlock children from 2 different boys/men by 22 ? I don't think it strange and in fact it may be quite the "peace of mind" a lot of young people wish they had. Besides, what some people consider a serious relation others may see it only as casual. She really should realize that she is comfortable with herself and doesn't seek a "serious relationship" to define herself. She should look herself in the mirror and say, "whew", and high five herself.

Answer 5

No, sometimes it takes longer for some people to find the right person. I was almost 21 when I had my first real serious relationship. And that one didn't turn out right. I think that most relationships before this age are really just a prep for the one, "The One," that will last for the rest of your life. All the people that we date when we are younger, serious or not, are like the building blocks of relationships. You have to get to know what you are and aren't looking for before you find the right one.

Answer 6

Not really, no. Most folks who endeavor to have "serious relationships" around this age usually wind up with a serious mess. Tell your friend that we all develop in our own time and we are not obligated to keep to another person's time schedule. She couldn't very well shed her baby teeth at will because other kids had already done so, nor could she similarly rush her social development to accommodate someone else's rate of development...it's coming, and in its own due time. It's more likely that she's being impatient with herself moreso than anyone else being impatient with her. As she looks around at others she may feel as though she's missing out on something...it's an understandable way to feel but nothing could be further from the truth. But as is true with most of us, she won't fully recognize that fact until this period in her life has already passed.

Answer 7

Not at all....look how many women out there who are almost 40, and they had a few only..that ended in a mess with a few kids..and not even married....how sad...
Tell your "friend" she has plenty of time....if she is 30 and no serious relationship..then she is doing something wrong.....if she is sleeping around, and not staying with the same guy for more than a month or two..then she has to change.....
But it's important to do something now.....start getting with a guy that only meets your standards...don't fall for just anyone....of course, if your standards are too high, you will never date anyone, so be real............

Answer 8

Nope i dont think so at all.Ithink most people get all caught up in relationships instead of concentrating on themselves. I think its good for her to never of had a serious relationship. They are always complicated and when you are 22 and younger your life changes so much so often that serious relationships at those ages always fall apart. She sounds like a wise woman.

Answer 9

No! Not at all!

You should be going on to college, getting your degree and thinking about your career. When the time is right, you will attract the right kind of man that you will enjoy having a true relationship with and not some idiot who thinks that staying out all night, partying and getting high is the way he should be acting.

Knowledge is Power!

Answer 10

32 it would be... 22 is still waaay younger than most people think (especially at 22)..

Most women, especially.. think life revolves around a man, and too early do they begin that thought -- when a KEY to life for a woman is to live without the ball & chain that MEN actually are (in slowing you down, believe it or not).. and ignoring them around the office/career and NOT ever going drinking with them (which leads places that rarely help a woman, unless your name is Barbara Walters, Diana Ross or Mary Wells Green).

Don't give your friend ANY advice that connects her with men & being depressed about it...