my ex comes to see his baby and he always sleep over is this a good idea and if not how do i tell him
2007-08-31 03:16:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He shouldn't have to sleep over every time he sees his kid, it's being intrusive to you and your house and unless he's pitching in for all the food he's eating while he's there he's also eating up your resources. If you have a problem with it, tell him to visit earlier in the day or that he can't plan on staying over when he visits.
You're the only one who can decide if it's right or not, it really depends on your personal situation and the relationship you two have. If you decide it's not right stick to your guns and don't allow any exceptions.
2007-08-31 03:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably in general it's not the best of ideas unless you're sure that neither one of you has any illusions about getting back together (and can you ever really BE sure of what another person is thinking?), or that maybe you ARE both open to the possibility of your getting back together. If you have a boyfriend now, your ex sleeping over will be an issue that will give you endless hours of arguing enjoyment. So be sure of what it is you're communicating when you let this occur.
2007-08-31 03:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea, but may be tolerable if for convenience and for financial reasons if he's too strapped to do otherwise. As long as there's no problem with you and maybe a new guy in your life being put out for his visits. The sleepover is OK as long as kept innocent unless he's trying to get you back and you don't want that.
2007-08-31 03:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he there to see the child or for an easy garaunteed lay? Be fair to yourself, if he doesn't want anything more to do with you than those nights, don't let him stay over. You need to move on with your life and find someone who wants to be with you - all the time! (and there for your child as well).... if he wants to be the loser ex bf who ditches out on responsibility knowing that he can still get a piece and see the kid whenever - while still running around with who knows who, end that now!
2007-08-31 03:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by Betty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm... tell him that ur feeling uncomfotable with him sleeping over... and he can't be using u like that.... put ur foot down and tell him unless he wanna get back with u or get married and start a family he can't sleep over anymore..... im sure that will run/ scared him
2007-08-31 13:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Brown Suga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him to then what's the big deal. He's probably hoping to get a little when he comes over though. I know I would be.
2007-08-31 03:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a bad idea IF you are comfortable.
and IF he is up to date on support payments.
IF he is not up to date and your are saving him hotel costs
then he needs to pay you for the eqivalent of a hotel $60
2007-08-31 04:39:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your ex so I would say NO unless your getting back together.
2007-08-31 03:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by Roses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought about a thing called marriage?
2007-08-31 03:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by gamermic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your comfortable with it ..... Let it be , If not make a change.
Do whats right for you and your family unit.
2007-08-31 03:26:27 · answer #10 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋