No one loves me... please help me?

Question

im 14 and my whole family hate me and they even say it to my face. i get really hurt. its mostly my mom, my grandad and grandma. they all stick togeather and mock me and they dont believe that my mom hits me and beats me. they say i should never of been born and that im a mistake, a disgrace to god and that i came from satan.. iv grown up knowing that im a burden and i dont even know what that is. whenever i get along with my mom, i ask for a hug and she walks off. iv never even had any love from my family, they hate me. they call me ugly too because i look more like my dad and they hate my dad cuz hes a bit darker than them cuz they are all blonde and fair skinned. i hate this life, i have no where else to go. and i cant go to my dads he lives in the south and i never seen his family. my moms family make me go out of the room, i cant eat until they've finished either, i hate this life... i can't take it much more, i got no money, no friends, nothing. i just suffer and get abused

thnx to the people that tried to help, it made me cry.. i wish you were my family. i will try call someone soon, i cant get out of the house but tonight ima get to the phone quietly. i love you all.

Answer 1

Do not bother for such things. Study well. Do your works in time. Help others. Keep smiling. Do not expect any thing, try to give more. Do not make friends who are not liked by your family. Time will pass and your knowledge will only be with you, so increase knowledge; read good books// do not copy others// excuse all including yourself.

Answer 2

Wow.
First, you are 14. The best part of life hasn't even started for you. From the sound of it, you have more to look forward to than most kids your age. Based on your question, you've never known the feelings of love, accomplishment, independence, freedom. There is so much more to LIFE than where you are now at 14 years.
As you grow up and mature, you have two choices about how to react to your current circumstances. 1) You could allow them to keep you down and become bitter (in other words "just like the people you described"). 2) Or you could allow your spirit to rise up within you to shed off all the negativity that surrounds you and accomplish great things. The choice is yours. You either let your current situation destroy you. Or you let it inspire you. You choose.
But take a minute and step back from your current feelings to evaluate the situation. We know how bad you see things, but what good things are in your current situation?
1. You're 14. You've made it to 14. Now, you're old enough to make a few decisions for yourself.
2. You have food to eat, even if it is after everyone else has eaten. At least you're getting food.
3. You have a place to sleep.
4. You can think for yourself.
5. You can dream and plan for your future.
6. You've got a computer to use. There are so many people in the world that don't. This is an outlet for you to explore.
7. There is hope. Even when there is no justice, there is always hope.
I realize that I am not you and do not have to endure the things you do. I don't pretend to understand your whole situation. I do, however, know that life is an adventure. Each day we are given is an opportunity to learn and to grow.
Even in the darkest times, hope is there.

Answer 3

The reason that they say they don't love you is NOT because you are not loveable. You ARE worthy of having love around you. The things they say are not true.

You can't make your family stop being screwed up... I think it is a waste of your time to try to make them love you. It sounds like they are just not capable of really loving. And that is not because of you or anything you have done. While it is sad and hurtful that they say and do those things, you do not need to be trapped by it.

You can't control what they say and do. But, you can control what you do in response. When they say or do those things, just say (either in your head or out loud)... stop saying that... it's a lie.

You are being abused. I know it doesn't sound like a good option, but telling someone is the best thing you can do. Tell a teacher or call an abuse hotline or the local children's aid society. 1-800-448-3000 is the number for the Girls and Boys Town helpline. Or, just google "children helpline" and find a local place to call.

Don't believe them. You are not an accident. You are worthy of love and a good life. They are lying to you. Please tell someone what is going on.

Answer 4

I'm sorry life has been so rough. Don't give up, there are good things coming very soon.

What you need to do is start thinking about life after them, and setting it up yourself.

Look for jobs, don't let anyone give you excuses or anything, just get one. You might need to fake your moms signature or whatever, but get yourself some money and time away from that awful situation.

While you live at home set yourself a goal of hiding half the money to get started. If you can't learn to save and budget your money it's always going to be hard. Have more discipline than your awful mom.

Once you're on your own life is great. I grew up very poor, so I know that it's not easy. Once you're out, life can be good again, there's lots of love out there to find and happiness is so easy when you control your own life.

Don't let yourself get down, you're just a couple years away from a better life.

Answer 5

i'm very sad for you.

can you talk to the school counselor? or do you know an adult you trust and respect? someone you could talk to about your feelings? what about a priest or minister? they will talk to a person for free.

you really need advice, and from someone who is local to you, so they can get you real help.

PLEASE try contacting your father, too. Talk with him and let him know what is happening to you. If you want to go where he is, ask... maybe something will work out wtih your father. I am sure he knows exactly how your mom and her family are.

Do something to get help for YOU. even if you have to call children's protective services in your area.

I hate to think you are suffering. There are options and yes you CAN talk to people out there who might be able to help. Please, take care of YOU, and seek some assistance, ok?

I sure hope you get some good answers here. Sending my love. xoxo ~~from, carolynn

Answer 6

Your situation is one of the hard situations I have heard and seen. But it is not really as worst as you think it is. God loves you and if you just keep on praying to him your life will be better in a few years time. Just keep on believing in God and do not lost hope that one day he will hear your prayers.

Your family is a disfunctional family. For you they do not simply function - leave them that way as there are things in this life which you can not change and the only thing you can do with it is to live with it and accept it and make the best out of it; if your family tell you that you are ugly then let them tell that to your face but do not put in your heart what they say be strong and be confident to know and realize that you are a child of God and for that you have something powerful in you and that you can make something out of it.

When I was young about your age my family was in great trouble. From being well off we become poor with the new situation everyone was not happy and is at shock. I was the youngest and like everyone else in the family I was also trying to accept our new lifestyle and the worst of it all my brothers, sisters and my near cousins do not treat me well. They hate me because they said I am the favorite of my family and that they want me to someday suffer for the cause of their sufferings. I feel so alone and sad. Then I turn to drugs which makes the situation more worst. With drugs I do some bad things that is so shameful. With that all and more I become a public enemy. A lot of people hate me and few only understand me (a little -some how) but most would want to go as far as they can from me. My parents wants to be near me and to talk to me but I hate them too - I just have so much pain in my heart at that time that I want to be alone most of the time. I never realize then that being alone most of the time lead me to build a strength which I use in most hard situations that I face (even until now).

Without someone to lend on in times of trouble I learn to believe in God and to welcome him in my life. I learn to know the best in me and to develop my talents and my good aspects and use them to make myself a lovable person (as I can be) and to be a part of the society which I thought would never welcome me in any way.

I hope my story gives you a hint as to how to deal with your situation.

PS your mother is only your biological mother your family is only your biological family and nothing more, do not ask for more than that - that is all they can be to you. Do not long that one day they will love you. As of now the best that you can do is to long that one day you will come to love yourself from that love all good things will come. And do no not ever forget God loves you.

Answer 7

Nobody should ever be in the situation that you're in. What they're doing isn't right! Is there anyone you can talk to- a teacher, someone at a church? If not, you still CAN go to a local church and ask for help- they won't turn you away and they can help you find someone that can help your situation. A teacher can help too- your principal, even.....

Answer 8

Sweet heart, Do you know how to get a hold of your dad? You really need to get away from that side of your family. I know its going to be hard but you do. Your mom shouldnt be talking to you like that. My mom talked to me like that all the time, so I moved in with my fathers mother. My mom hated me because I looked like my dad and he had killed him self so she hated me and told me all that stuff. So if you can try to get a hold of your dad or dads side of the family and get out of that house hold if you need to look up a hot line number to call. Call CPS on your mom... Do what you got to do to get out of that house hold

Answer 9

dont worry man ?u hav not given ur details that where are u living(place)r u an indian.dont worry.be alone .develop some hobbies.r u studying.i will be ur best friend.mail me.o.k.see pray for god .and tell ur difficulties to him. am sure that he is watching these things.after the dark there is a light.dont take it to heart.just neglect them.develop hobbies like painting &ofcourse u can mail me.o.k.if ur mother say something dont take it to heart.if u want my help i will be there.bye!!!

Answer 10

Read 'Oliver Twist'. It will make you feel better.

You might want to tell your family that yes you are from Satan and that you'll be coming into your powers in a couple of years.

That might make them think a bit.

Time to go find Dad.