Should I go to my ex-boyfriend's birthday party?

Question

It's the last summer before he goes to college, but his girlfriend will be there.

And he kinda faked his love for me.

Answer 1

Then you ought to fake that you're there. No, don't go. Why would you want to like a person who treated you like doggy doo? Let him have his little party with his new girlfriend and you go do something fun and worthwhile for you.

Answer 2

Hi!
To be honest with you, with that last note, it seems that you are the one that doesn't really want to go there.

He invited you? Or are you planning to crash?

If it is the second, I'd say that it would be probably better for you to skip the party.
Now, if it is the first, it depends really on how you feel.

I have pretty good relations with my ex boyfriend, and I would not miss a College going away party, because it is an important deal. Of course, I knew we loved each other and he was always a gentleman, so that makes me want to go to say goodbye. I don't really mind in this case the new grilfriend, because I respect what they have and I'm his friend (my ex's) and I love him too.

Now, if he would have been a jerk with me, I wouldn't feel like going. Even if he invited me. I mean, c'mon! Is he trying to wash his hands with a party invitation?! I'd rent a nice movie and stay home. I'd be happier, and maybe it would get to him the message that if he was a jerk back then, with a party he is not going to "fix" it.

You can always do the "get a nice hot date" and go to the party, but that's up to how do you really feel. If your ex guy is a kind of jerk that is going to be kissing his new girlfriend right in front of you through all the party, please, abstain! Is not going to make anybody feel better!

There are a lot of considerations as you see. Trust yourself!
And try avoid doing things that might hurt you even more. If you have the feeling that this party is not going to make you smile, don't go!

Goodluck!

Answer 3

Nothing good could possibly come of it.

If your fantasy involves him realizing the new girl friend is a gigantic whore, and that he loved you all along, and he dumps her for you in front of all his/her friends--then get a new fantasy... That ain't gonna happen.

What will happen... You will have too much to drink, will cause a scene or try to start a fight with the new GF, get thrown out of the party and cement your reputation and his "psycho" ex and will push him even further into her arms.

Your choice.