According to their "policy" no parents are allowed in the dentist's room with their child. I don't like this. My son is very shy and also has a speech issue. His appointment is today, and I want to insist that I be allowed to go back there with him. Is this unreasonable of me? What is the purpose of their policy?
I'm sorry, but I don't trust anyone with my children nowadays.
2007-08-31 01:03:57 · 17 answers · asked by a person 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son is 4
2007-08-31 01:04:53 · update #1
I would never allow my child out of my site with anyone that I didn't know and I would tell them either I go back with him or I'll find another dentist. I can't believe anyone would have a policy like that when there are so many crimes against children being committed.
2007-08-31 01:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by EvilWoman0913 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids have a pediatric dentist and they have the same policy. The room is large with about 6 or 7 chairs for several kids. There are dental hygienists as well as dentists back there all in one big room. There are TV monitors back there so each child can watch a movie while their teeth are being worked on. My kids were 3 and 5 when they first started going and now they are teenagers.
For us, this policy was a blessing because my younger son would have screamed "MOMMY!!!" if I were in that room. He would want me to "rescue" him from the dental chair but when I'm not there then he's fine and he behaves alright.
That's how he would act when it was time for a haircut. I would try to stand in a place in the salon where he couldn't see me but I could see him. He would eventually see me in the mirror and the mommy screaming would begin. I could only imagine he would be the same way with the dentist.
Call the dentist and ask what it's like. Are there going to be several kids there or just your son? If you're not comfortable with this dentist then see another one. I only heard of pediatric dentists having a policy like this because many children are less cooperative when parents are in the room. There are many regular dentists that wouldn't have a policy like this.
FTR, both my kids had speech issues when they were little and it was never a problem at the dentist. They're not shy though so I wouldn't know about that part.
2007-08-31 22:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the room is small, or perhaps they've had an incident in the past with a parent in the room interfering. Either way, I would speak to them about their policy and explain your son's situation. If they persist, let them know you will be taking your business to another dentist with a better understanding of children.
2007-08-31 08:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing with my daughter, and I didn't like it either. But I met the dentist first, and got a good vibe from them and everyone in the office.
They also explained that children that young don't often cooperate with the parent in the room.
And it turned out it was much, much better for her to go back by herself, because she cooperated for them but not for me. Still works this way, and she is 6 years older now. (she has a major fear of dentists)
2007-08-31 08:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by Gorgeous 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The dentist office may have their policy but you need to tell them of yours. If they don't want to cooperate and allow you to sit with your child to ease his fears then find a new dentist and be sure when interviewing the new office you check on their policies and flexibilities. I went in with my daughter for several years she is now 11 and goes back by herself just fine.
2007-08-31 08:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by wag35 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not unreasonable. I would find another dentist that does not have such a stupid policy. If they don't understand that a child might want their parent back there with them, then I would wonder about their skills with handling children.
2007-08-31 08:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Brian A 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i agree with these guys....find a new dentist that is ridiculous, and TELL the first dentist exactly why you are finding a new dentist, there are onlt a few reasons a dr or deltist wont allow a parent to go back with their child and none of them are good. I would never take my daughter to a dr or dentist who wouldnt allow me to be with her.
2007-08-31 08:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, don't trust your child with anyone.
Find a new dentist. Ask the local daycare for a reference, they normally know who people use the most for dr's and dentists and are glad to pass the info along.
Good luck on your search! =)
2007-08-31 08:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by biology_freak 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea that sucks and is pretty ghey. i don't think that it is unreasonable of you at all!! Some children do better without their parents but some do better so I think you should be able to chose if you can go back with him or not. You should inform them about his speech issue and how shy he is . Then I'm pretty sure they would let you go back there. But Good Luck that!! :]]
2007-08-31 08:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by Keri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is ridiculos. State that you need to be back there with your child. They could be doing horrible things to him, possibly. My mom went with me till I was about 15, because I was the youngest. If this does not work out, do not be afraid to get a different dentist.
2007-08-31 08:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by Nouser 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋