Right first of all if your just going to be nasty do not answer because i've come here for answers that will help.
Im 14 and my boyfriends 17. We want to have sex but im not sure whether to because im young and i dont want to risk getting pregnant even with condom. Some of myy mates that are younger than me have done it and it sound like fun. I no just because they have done it doesnt mean i have to do it. Should i go for it or wait? we have been together 9months.
Thanks
2007-08-31 00:46:55 · 10 answers · asked by ILoveYouLewis [: 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes he will wait and he respects me. And I Really love him!
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2007-08-31 01:20:45 · update #1
Sounds to me like you already know what to do (Or not do!)...but you're afraid that since your mates already have...and made it sound like "fun"...and I'm sure your boyfriend is cranking up the pressure...that you feel like you should...But there is that whole "pregnancy" and STD nastiness....
Look...I can't tell you whether you should or shouldn't...I could lecture you on your age...(14 is rather young!)...and I could give you the "fear of God" speach and tell you all about pregnancy and STDs and condoms breaking and other horror stories...But that won't stop you if your mind is already made up.
You say you've been with your boyfriend 9 months...that's respectable...but do you really love this guy? Enough that, if a pregnancy WERE to happen, could you be tied to him for at least 18 years to raise a child? (Whether you marry or not...he'll be in your life if a child is born)...are you ready for that kind of responsibility? Do you have plans for college or a career?...are you willing to sacrifice any of those things for a child?
These are realities that you MUST consider if you are ready to take this step...that's why a lot of people choose to wait until they're a bit older...and at least a little more mentally prepared for the consequences. I'm not going to say that sex isn't fun...we all know that it is....but it's rarely fun the first time.
That's why older people keep saying that it should be with someone special...because it's not much fun, and it's going to be something you remember for the rest of your life!
You may feel that you are indeed ready....but are you ready for the consequences? If not...and this guy truly loves you...then you've got the rest of your life to have sex...why not wait a little while longer? What's a couple of years compared to the rest of your life?
Besides...at 14 you should be more concerned with passing a History test...than failing a pregnancy test!
Good luck to you...I hope you choose wisely!
2007-08-31 01:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by MACHNGUN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask a bunch of strangers if you should have sex or not perhaps you aren't ready. Having sex for the first time is a personal decision. 14 is rather young and the best way to ensure that you won't get pregnant or catch some horrible disease is to wait. 9 months may seem like a long time to have been together to you, but its not. If he loves you, or even really cares for you he will understand and wait for you to know that you are ready. The number one way to ensure that a relationship between young people ends is to add sex into the equation. Wait kid don't pressure yourself into something major simply because it "sounds like fun".
2007-08-31 08:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by who said that? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhmm.. not gonna be mean but 14 is a bit young. I can't really judge you, because I lost mine when I was 15. =/ Not the most pleasant experience, he was pretty lame.. LOL! But I think this decision is mostly up to you. Look deep down, and ask yourself, do you really wanna take that risk? I only had sex once, and if you find a good guy that will wait then damn you are lucky, I found one. And he's hot! =D He will wait, he knows that good things come to those who wait.. =)
2007-08-31 08:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by Sammers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- you are too young.
2- you are not sure may be the bf is lustful and surely immature now and that he will be absconding later.
3- If he is truely in love with you so its not a problem to wait much longer since you are already together.
4- Dangerous consequences previously proved of having sex at early ages for us (girls)
Hope that may help.
2007-08-31 08:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sara007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a terrible idea, ur way too young. Its very unlikely this guy will marry you. You should wait until marriage. Unless your one of those girls who doesnt' care. I know I'd prefer the one i marry to still have her virginity.
E-mail me if you have questions
2007-08-31 09:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is an age for everything and sex is when know what it is .Since right now you aren't sure,it would be prudent to wait.Friends(including Boys)shall come and go but not your own life altering experiences.Be your own GUIDE.
2007-08-31 08:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely wait. You're way too young and you'll probably meet and date a number of guys after this boufriend.
2007-08-31 12:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooo !!!!
2007-08-31 08:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r a kid
2007-08-31 08:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by ??Cupid?? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you................if you feel like to do it...................if you have any doubts then lat it be...................and i think you have ...............cuz if you wouldnt have any doubts you would not ask here...make the right desicion
2007-08-31 07:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by night_age_germany 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋