My "somewhat boyfriend" is having trouble balancing his homosexuality and being the devout Catholic that he is. He doesn't believe that he can both be a minister of his faith and be in a serious relationship with another male. He practices music ministry as well as ministers to youth. Can someone please give me help on this on how to explain to him that this is not a problem. He believes that he has to be two different people and doesn't fell right trying to do so, which is understandable. He's the type of person who needs hard concrete evidence. In a short period of time I have truly fallen in love with him and want to do everything in my power not to loose him. Please help me.
2007-08-31 00:15:09 · 10 answers · asked by richard 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am not looking for answers in the negative point of view. Nor am I looking for answers bashing homosexuals. So please do not answer this question if you are going to bash my beliefs.
2007-08-31 00:44:04 · update #1
Though not a Catholic, Bishop Gene Robinson is marrying his gay partner, perhaps you could look up some articles and interviews with him on the subject.
There have always been gay priests and the only difference seems to be you are being open about it (or maybe not it's unclear), it's not an Earth shattering thing at all anyway, though there will undoubtedly be some individuals who would try to make it into something of the sort.
Why doesn't he get a proper job anyway?
2007-08-31 00:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want any "negative" answers then, the truth of the matter is, you are not really looking for honest answers to your question. You are merely seeking affirmation of your own person belief. That's not good.
It seems to me your friend understands Catholic teaching on homosexual activity. You see, merely being homosexual is not a sin. Homosexual activity, on the other hand, is sinful. Now, many people like to equate the inclination with the behavior, but that only does a disservice to the Truth.
Here is official Catholic teaching (from the Catechism) on the subject to, hopefully, clarify what I am trying to say:
2357 Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken a great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity, tradition has always declared that "homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered." They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.
2359 Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.
2358 The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God's will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord's Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.
2396 Among the sins gravely contrary to chastity are masturbation, fornication, pornography, and homosexual practices.
It is possible for a person, such as your friend, to be both a devout Catholic as well as a homosexual. Understand what this means though, the homosexual (all Catholics regardless of sexual orientation) must practice abstinence outside and/or in the absense of the marital union.
Does "everything in your power" include forcing your friend to break off his relationship with God? I certainly hope not. There's no reason you two can't be close friends, but don't block your friend's journey in the Faith.
2007-08-31 10:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by Daver 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yo man the whole gay thing is kinda disgusting, but nah man especially as a minister he has to enforce Christian principles on himself like triple times as much as just a regular believer would. You can't be an effective minister preaching the gospel and only live half of it. definitely not good that is 'satisfying the lusts of the flesh.' If he is really serious about God then he doesn't need you. truth hurts but I'm not guna lie to you gayman
2007-08-31 07:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh, Richard! My heart truly goes out to you, my friend!
Hun, YOU are a stumbling block to your "somewhat boyfriend". He can't be an effective minister of the Gospel, and still live in his sin, it just isn't possible. In order for him to give himself completely to God, he's going to have to end his sexual relationship with you. If you do, really, love him, you will want what is best for him...and if you really want what is best for him, you will back out of the situation.
It is very, very, very, very hard, I know, but homosexuality IS an abomination to God, and it is NOT something His ministers can engage in and keep their integrity.
I am sorry, Hun...but if you do, honestly love this guy...
you will let him go to his God.
2007-08-31 07:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he's really devout, then there's no chance that the two of you can last. either he reject the dogmas and teachings of the Church, or he rejects you. this may sound harsh, but homosexual acts are a no-no in the Christian faith.
2007-08-31 07:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by Perceptive 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Especially when one is aournd 40 and the other around 10.
2007-08-31 07:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by biblegracespirit 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
it is a problem. homosexuality is forbidden in the eyes of God .that's why he destroyed sodom and gamorrah.when are you people going to realize this.
2007-08-31 07:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by morningstar6707 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not?
Why deny who you are to stick to the tenets of a medievil religious dogma?
Be yourself and if the roman catholic church don't like it...who cares?
2007-08-31 07:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
..."if" they profess to follow the teaching of Yeshua (you know Him as Jesus)... then if "they" do not follow the Scriptures, "they" are not devout anything...other then satisfying the lusts of their "flesh"...
2007-08-31 07:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
2007-08-31 07:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋