She got caught sneaking on campus with a bottle of coke and a jigger of rum.
2007-08-31 00:00:13 · 13 answers · asked by Mike 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you and your daughter need to sit down and talk honestly about where she wants to take her life and what goals she wants to set to get there. I think also that she will have less freedom until you are more sure she is able to make better decisions. As a parent, it is your job to try to protect her from herself until she gets her head back on. I would talk to her and find out how important drinking is to her and how it is affecting her life. Then you can talk about her future and come up with a contract/agreement on what she will do to get there. She needs to be sober and needs to give herself a good chance at her life. I would interfere with her drinking to the best of my ability. What is really going on? Why is she drinking in the first place? I think an open, honest discussion without any lecture and a lot of listening is in order. Then I think a plan needs put in place for your daughter to have other very fun activities to relieve stress and make her feel good that involve being sober. I would get her busy in a way doing things that make life better so that there is no time for partying. I would prefer she didn't get drunk, pregnant, screw up school and have to take ten years to fix her mistakes. I would for sure get a handle on this. If you can't, I would go to a professional who could help. Good luck. She needs a lot of love and a new plan.
2007-08-31 00:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats part of being a kid and unfortunatley part of being a parent is dealing with it. i guess you have options.. first how do you feel about it? dose your family drink, or is it looked down upon.. you have to try to enstill those ideals in her..if she still lives wth you then punish her... keep her in and have her work aroud the home until you feel she has learned a lesson.. unfortunatley that wont really stop her in the future but she may think twice and be more careful, she is going to do it anyway so the best thing for you to do is always make sure she knows you are not ok with it.. if she gets caught she will have hell to pay.. and seriously keep such a strong eye on her because drinking leads to other things and sex.... so always know who, where and when..my best advice is always communicate with her whether she wants to or not, always tell her she can talk to you and that ypu love her so much... even if she responds every time witha mean face or a rude remark, she wants and needs to hear it...as cheesey as it sounds she will feel fulfilled and wont turn to drinking or guys to feel loved...
2007-08-31 07:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by e.kess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first tell her to drink PEPSI
second, this is normal on campus just tell her to be safe, you sure can't stop it!.. from my side it was only a jigger not a few bottles. Talk to your daughter, let her know that you disapprove, but it's time for her to own up to your life and where it may head..... tell me anyone that didn't drink on campus...? it happens....>
2007-08-31 07:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by timestamps 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Instead of saying 'drinking is bad' explain to her that it is against the law for someone her age to drink. But of course she knows that, so maybe just try talking to her about responsible drinking and how important that is. If she does drink you probably won't be able to tell her to stop, because you won't be there all the time. You need to teach her to make her decisions responsibly when she's not there. If you can't stop her from going to a party and drinking, hopefully you can convince her to just have one or two drinks, and not get completely wasted.
The truth is most teenagers drink. You probably can't stop her from drinking, so just try to teach her, so maybe she will be the one telling herself to stop.
2007-08-31 07:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Im sorry about your daughter, the best thing is to sit down with her and talk to her. Ask him why she's doing what she's doing. Hear her side of the story, then warn her as to what demage that staff will do her. Also remind her that its her future that she'e messing with.
2007-08-31 07:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by Ntoh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be friendly...have you ever read the Word? There is wisdom in there. Pray with her and teach with your words and with your actions. Tell her it is not ok to drink...and after that go into your room and pray again for her! Pray as much as you can for your child/children!
Take very good care!
2007-08-31 07:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is she? If she is in high school, you need to be sure that she is not becoming an alcoholic before you do anything. If she is in college, that is common and hopefully she has already learned her lesson.
2007-08-31 07:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seat her down and talk to her since this is a problem in disgise if its not handled now,it may result in alcoholism so dont shout but talk to her
2007-08-31 07:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by robert k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't set sail with the Captain (Morgan) till ye is 21...GARRR!
2007-08-31 07:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by USAF, Retired 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her Otis called and wants to meet her. If she asks, "Otis who?" Tell her oh you know, that guy that lives in Mayberry.
2007-08-31 08:00:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋