yeah I've been up all night with the sledgehammer still lodged in my stomach unable to sleep.She says she is the problem not me.(I heard that bs line before).She went back to her boyfriend that left her 7 years ago.He came back and she was seeing him for the last few months behind my back.She asks to still be friends.She made me promise to call her.Damn it friggin hurts.My question is should I stay friends with her?
2007-08-30 23:47:54 · 11 answers · asked by p3solo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, try to move on.
2007-08-30 23:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by bettyboo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HMMMMmmmmm..... stay friends with her. Absolutely not! What a dirty move on her part to be with you for that long then go back to him behind your back. I am a pretty level headed guy in terms of relationships and what she did is very disrespectful and wrong. Had she broken up with you then started up with him again I'd say ok, you can be friends but with what she did do you really want a "friend" like that in your life? I wouldn't!! Good luck and remember the pain will go away!
2007-08-31 06:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that you should stay friends with her, but dont be expecting her to love you. Do you still respect her? A friend you have no respect for isn't a friend. So if you don't respect her then don't. I'd like to just act like i nvr knew my ex when this kinds of things happen. the world is still in your plate. I want you to sit back and look at your life. is this all to life? maybe u can get someone to probe u to find out.
2007-08-31 07:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can truely answer that and it's going to take some time before you will know the answer. In my opinion you shouldn't but that's because she cheated on you and lied to you for some time now and that doesn't show any feelings to you at all. My ex broke up with me but she dumped me before going with the other guy. I will also tell you that most people will stay 'Let's stay friends' but that as well is bs. You will slowly drift apart.
2007-08-31 06:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by not_moes_cousin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in touch only occasionally. Give yourself lots of space to heal and see other people. I had a ex-bf and he would come by the house around Christmas time and we would chat and catch up. It was nice to know what he was doing. However, we only talked once a year.
To date someone for four years and then get to a point that you are so seperate that you don't know if they are alive or dead seems wierd to me but that is how most people do it.
2007-08-31 06:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by gogogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god i can actually feel your pain.
don't try to be friends with her. avoid her. seeing her would only hurt and you wouldn't want to feel awkward. remember that she didn't really trat you with respect at the end. she cheated on you. tell a close friend of yours and so they'll keep you company through this hard time.
good luck. i hope you'll get better sooner than soon.
2007-08-31 07:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to try to move on. she has already taken 4 years of your life. Don't give her any more if you can help it.
2007-08-31 06:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope drop that h o like a bad habbit she just wants to be friends still so she wont feel as bad about how she did you.
2007-08-31 06:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
it will only lead to more hurt, and I DO KNOW
she wants a safety net for if things fail between her and fer guy, NO! drop her hard and fast
2007-08-31 06:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by timestamps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you shouldn't still be friends. sounds like she was never interested. sorry.
my husband broke up with me (my fault), then my second husband died. now that does hurt!
2007-08-31 07:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by Alexandra M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋