Why do I always get the low lifes that want to hurt me...
And don't call me a masochist. I surely, don't like this.
2007-08-30 22:44:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can control how men will treat you...
2007-08-30 22:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it boils down to our unconcious self concept. We want a man who is loyal, dependable and caring but because our unconcious self concept keeps telling ourselves we are not worthy, we go for guys who tap into that kind feeling for ourselves. We are comfortable with this kind of behavior on a deeper level. After my divorce I went for men that were very similar to my ex. At the time I didn't think so, but it was true! In my healing process I realized this and have built on my strengths and am now in a place where I can identify that self worth is connected to every relationship. The inner child in us can stand tall and say, I deserve the best in life..but to actually believe it, is another story.
Identify what it is that attracts you to this sort of man and decide if it is them or you that keeps repeating the pattern. I found that I was my own worse enemy. But I am getting much better at it and so can you!
Choose to heal and to become the very best you can be.
Good luck...you deserve the best! :)
2007-08-31 06:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There not all taken, they just don't want you. But this could be for any number of reasons, to include but not limited to.........Having an unattractive personality, being aesthetically challenged, having low confidence, and lacking intelligence. But hopes not lost, i'm sure there is some other guy that believes all the good women are taken, but when he meets you, he will be glad that he is correct in his assesment that all the goods are just out of reach.
2007-08-31 06:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by "the Otter" 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems that way because good men like good women are almost impossible to find. Do we not have a divorce rate around 65%?????????????????
Now why do u suppose this is? ill tell u why. Because women and men have lost their morals and their hearts, they care first for themselves and then for everyone else. To be able to grow in love u must be able to act unselfishly for the good of others. In selfishness, love dies. This is the me, myself, and i era. Consider yourself to be very lucky if u find a good man in this day and age.
My prayers are with u.
2007-09-02 22:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are good men around, but they aren't going to want you if you are giving off that attitude!
2007-08-31 05:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You attract who you are, not what you want... If you want a certain type of guy, you need to become that type of person. Good luck
2007-08-31 05:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by James Dean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the good guys are taken because most good guys now used to be treated like crap and realised that stupid women who ask "Where are all the good guys gone" are usually the ones that treated them like crap in the first place!!!
2007-08-31 05:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i wonder the same thing and am in the same position! i think the problem is most girls tend to meet guys in all the wrong places. wish i knew that answer!
2007-08-31 05:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no offense but there's a thing where unhappy people tends to attract unhappy people. so if you're thinking that those you met are ****, look back at yourself and you know what you need to change...
2007-08-31 06:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry i fit all of those things but it's called life.
2007-08-31 05:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by Kyle B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its like when you say somthing is the last place you look. When you find a good guy you stop looking :)
2007-08-31 05:55:12 · answer #11 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋