Is it too early for sex?

Question

I'm 16, my girlfriend of 3 months is 19. We were at a party the other night and she asked me if I would like to sleep with her tonight. I didn't exactly understand what she meant, as I assumed she meant actually going to sleep, lol. During our make-out session she removed her top and went for my belt buckle. Immediately I knew what she was after. I panic, I fake passing out from too many drinks. I like her alot but I'm still a virgin, plus I'm underage and worried about what may happen to her if someone found out we had sex. What should I do?:(

Answer 1

I think you are a smart young man. No one, male or female should have sex before they feel it is right. You are a good person to consider the consequences to her as well. I would suggest you talk to her about it when the two of you are sober. Also I would like to tell you, it is totally up to you when you decide the time is right, but please take precautions. I know now that even though I was 18 the first time, I should have waited. I didn't realize that until I married my husband. I didn't really understand what real love could be like until I met him. I wish he had been my first everything, and he has said the same thing about me.

Answer 2

You should be very careful about contraception number one. She may have the wrong idea for wanting to have sex with you at that time. By that I mean that she may think she wants a baby and I am sure you are way too young to get into that whole mess. There's one more thing you need to consider and that would be if she were already baking one in the oven and wants a daddy for it. I'm not saying that this is likely, I'm just saying consider every angle. If a few months go by and she is still hanging around, then it was likely just the alcohol making her think she wanted to fool around. Ask her if she will wait for you to be ready for this since it's a big step for you. There's a chance that she could stray but at least you will know how she is and there will have been no damage done. You do watch Maury right? If not, turn that on some day, 9 times out of 10 he is running paternity tests for all kinds of people who are screwing around with half the dudes in their towns. Some women keep dragging multiple men to be tested for paternity.

I think you need a little more time to get educated about all the possibilties that come along with a sex life. If she loves you, she will give you time and space. At 16 it can be difficult to know what love is compared to lust. Lust is not a bad thing but it can affect the rest of your life if she ends up pregnant.

Answer 3

You're 16 years old, so in general sex is appropriate for someone your age. Of course, it may not be appropriate for you. Just tell your girlfriend that you're not ready to have sex. Talk to her about it. Your personal feelings and why you believe you're not ready. She should know these things.

It's not likely that she'll get in trouble at 19 with a 16 year old especially being that she's a woman, but just keep your mouth shut. Yes, there is a double standard, not that a 19 year old and a 16 year old shouldn't be together though.

Of course, where I grew up 14 was the legal age of consent.

Answer 4

wow she must of felt so good when u faked passing out!!-LOL

why didn't u just tell her to stop?? well as u say u under age (not that that matters these days if its consensual and that's the truth)

well she seams to know what she is doing so u can either let her take control of the situation....or just tell her (u have a choice)

if u not ready u not ready...16 is the time most boys losses their virginity (also a fact) if u where 14 I'd say u too young but 16 is the norm....(as scary as that sounds)

Answer 5

Well thats a hard one. Obviously shes not a virgin. Does she know that you are?? It depends where you live but she could get in trouble if certain people found out. But then again people are doing all the time. You will know when you ready. And then take it from there. Take care

Answer 6

dont do it! ur playing with fire! she is either with u for
A) quick sex and take ur virginity
B) either really likes u and is too horny
or C) got caught up at the party and the drinks and w.e else

if she gets caught she will be booked and fined and be a registered sex offender and it is called sagutory rape even though if she has ur consent to have sex.

all in all hunny date someone ur own age and keep ur virginity its a beautiful thing!

Answer 7

The fact that you thought she wanted you to go to sleep with her answers your question. Of course your too young. It's not about the number it's about the maturity of the person. Not saying that you inmature your just not ready for sex.

Answer 8

first of all go for HIV/AIDS test before you try anything out.

then you decide what to do, if you are still uncomfortable about it then just wait, the urge will come naturally.

i would advise you to wait till marriage for that kind of step but we are humans and w got needs.

male sure you are very comfortable about it before you move to the next step.

do you love her?

is she the one for you?

does she love you?

you can also talk to her about how you feel she will help you out but don't let her talking you into doing it if you don't want.

and if you try just be careful and be safe.
better prevention than cure or death....

tc

Answer 9

well if you really want to have sex with this girl,then go for it. But the first girl u have sex with will be hard to get over so make sure she is going to stay with u & make sure4 she is the one u want to lose ur virginity to.. And if u don't wan't her send her my way DON'T FORGET TO WEAR A CONDOM!!!!

Answer 10

Your 16 dude your not underage unless she if more then 7 years older. Hit that before she dumps you! Sex is great you wont regret it!