Hi i got engaged recently with my parents concern and after engagement when i compare the photos of my fiance and the girl which i rejected. It looks like iam a fool coz i rejected a very good girl (Even my parents liked her but i dont know when i saw her photo for the first time i didnot liked it and rejected her but after selecting another girl and got engaged i compared the photos and now iam cursing myself why i rejected the previous girl Only God Knows).
Now iam not able to concentrate on any thing including my job. Idont know why iam thinking like breaking the engagement and trying to convince the first girl which i rejected. Please advice me correclty iam going thru some infatuation or ???. Also yes the girl i rejected is more beautiful, taller and more educated than the one i got engaged.
2007-08-30 22:20:18 · 10 answers · asked by asim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
is this an arranged marriage??? if it is then it slightly makes sense but if it isnt then your not mature enough to get married,ppl cant make you marry someone you dont want to
2007-08-30 23:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by charlie baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if someone more beautiful and smarter comes along than the first girl after you decide to be with her? Will you dump her for someone new?
I get the impression you are making a decision on a marriage partner by listening to your parents and what you have heard from other people about her and seen through a photo. Have you spent enough time getting to know the girls as a 'person' to make a life long commitment? If not, maybe you should discuss this with your family.
Maybe you are not ready for marriage? and should consider waiting a little longer before making such a big decision.
If you are in love you would not be thinking about another girl. It is not fair to lead your fiance on and pretend to have feelings for her. How would you feel if your fiance did this to you? You should end the engagement even if it means you will not have either girl.
2007-08-31 06:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by hiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not 100% that you want to spend the rest of your life with your fiance then break it off now before it's too late and you make a big mistake by marrying someone you aren't meant for.
Do you love your fiance enough to marry her? It doesn't really seem like it if you are thinking about another girl this much. That in itself should say something.
You might get over this other girl but if you are convinced it's not just a crush then do something about it. Don't break up with your fiance just because your parents don't like her and she is not as good looking. That is just shallow and stupid.
I would give it a little bit, not too long though, and see how you feel about the other one later. Before you make a decision, be 100% sure you are doing the right thing, and go with your heart and your head.
2007-08-31 06:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you propose to your fiance??? If you are confused like this then you may not need to get married right now. She can be all of the things you said, but what is it about yout fiance that made you propose it her than the other girl? You aren't ready if you are this worked up over another woman and asking yourself why did u let her go. You might need to call this engagement now to save your fiance and yourself a lot more hurt later.
2007-08-31 07:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a case of "the grass isn't always greener on the other side". Break off the engagement. I don't think you're ready to marry anyone right now. What will you do if you dump your current girl for the other, then find another that you like better than her? Stick with dating only
2007-08-31 07:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by mom to be 6/27/09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have based your engagement choices on a picture as to which girl looks better? YOU ARE WAY TOO YOUNG TO BE GETTING MARRIED. GO BACK TO SCHOOL.
2007-08-31 06:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "rejected" about a million times in that story.
I'm sorry, but I didn't understand any of that. I think you should calm down and type it again using better grammar when you do.
2007-08-31 09:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate get outta the relationship youre not ready
2007-08-31 10:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by dandan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why we like to date each other before making those decisions.
2007-08-31 05:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think your're an idiot. Do you just randomly get engaged or something?
2007-08-31 05:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by Suzieq 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋