I'm crying over something that might not even be a big deal.. I'm just really tired right now but it's been bugging me for a while.. please read
My bf n I hav been dating for 3 months and I love him. I've never loved anyone like this before. He says he loves me too n that he wants to be with me forever.
The past month he has just started at the police acadaemy so he has to work heaps and study. On top of that, he has taken up netball 2 nights a week and tennis all day saturday.
This week I saw him for 3 hrs on tues nite.. 2 hrs last nite but that was at a pub with his family so we had no alone time, and i dont c him till 7pm sat nite. Hes leaving early sunday morning to go and c family.
Then next week its bak 2 the same thing. 2day he sent one msg saying he hoped i was havn a good day.
Hes at the pub with work mates rite now. I just want him here with me. Ive told him that it bothers me n hes been tryin to c me more but its not any different.. I love him so much...
2007-08-30 22:06:16 · 25 answers · asked by jeska102 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry to hear that. Talk to him, and tell him how you feel. Hopefully he will understand how important it is to you, that he makes time for you both to be together.
2007-08-30 22:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Marc M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a one sided love affair.If he wanted to be with you,he could give up some of the sports.You should understand,that the police academy will take a lot of his time.So,you have to understand that.Try sitting down with him and work out a time budget.He can at least give you as much time as he devotes to sports.If you don't do something,you will fade into the scenery.
2007-08-31 05:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont say what you are doing whilst he is busy doing all his stuff. Maybe you should get yourself a couple of hobbies. It would probably be better to have an open relationship as this set up does not suit everyone. You have only been dating for 3 months, are you expecting too much?
2007-08-31 05:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, if he's at the pub right now with "work mates" right now, then why aren't you there with him? It looks to me like if you want to spend more time with him, you're going to have to be willing to join in on his interests and NOT overcrowd him doing so (make sure he's alright with you tagging along!). If he's not ok with it, and doesn't want you at the pub with him, then he's really just not wanting to spend so much time with you. You need to get out on your own, and get your own thing going on. Hang out with your own friends! I know it's hard when you're in love, all you want to do is spend every waking moment with someone, but it sounds like you are both young and just starting out in life. It's important to experience it! Support him in what he's doing, don't make him feel bad for trying to acheive his goals. Good Luck!
2007-08-31 05:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by dediktionworkingdogs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, damn. Get off it. I dated a college girl while I had a job and was living at home. If I wanted to see her, it was on weekends and I had to drive 3-4 hours to get there. That went on for a couple of years. If you can't handle it, find somebody else.
2007-08-31 05:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At times people have to be able to split time with loved ones and work. I know right now it feels like he has abandoned you but he really hasn't. He has to build a relationship with his fellow officers in someway. Law enforcement isn't a nine-to-five type of job, his life is in their hands and vice versa. They need to see him in stressful situations to know how he will react with a life and death situation. One way to do that is at the pub. Drunks do stupid things and when they see how he reacts to them not at a cop, they have a good idea how he will work with them on the job.
Don't stress over this, everything will be fine and before you know it, he will be back to spend time with you.
2007-08-31 05:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kyle B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... that's a bummer. If you already expressed your self to him he should make an attempt to spend some time w/you. I mean apparently he has some time but prefers to spend it with his friends rather than just you. I don't mean to sound harsh. Have a serious talk, make your point. If he's not willing to then move on.
2007-08-31 05:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by ..:: Liz ::.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that must really feel bad but sometimes we get so caught up wid things in life that we miss out the ones we love . just give him time and space he will eventually come around. Just be supportive and understanding.
good luck
2007-08-31 05:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by cndy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must accept that you are not the priority in his life right now and if you cannot accept that then you need to break up with him and find a guy that will appreciate you more and make you his priority in his life. good luck mate
2007-08-31 05:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's going to be a police officer it's a lifestyle you will have to get use to, shift work including nights and extra duty. Think about it.
2007-08-31 05:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by Rahouel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a very busy man, and you will either have to accept it or break up with him. You can't take all of his free time right now because he has so little. Find you something to do to keep yourself occupied.
2007-08-31 05:15:42 · answer #11 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋