Okay so I am starting 8th grade at a British school in Chicago. On Wednesday, we had our introduction day. My 2nd mother and I went because she and i don't know any teachers, and she wanted to find out about he cirriculum better. So we walked into the science room, and there was an English man who greeted us. Young; in his 20's. Wasn't SO cute. Not my type. He wasn't a guy who was going to be my teacher. That guy came in a few minutes later. So this first guy who greeted us...I couldn't help notice that he kept staring at me up and down. At my body and mostly my chest.....I have to be honest and say this. My body is much much much more mature that most girls' my age. And I do have a chest. And I'm aware at that. No other teacher that entire day looked at me that way. I sorta felt uncomfortable. When I feel that way....it's like you know....i feel like he's into me. But he didn't touch me or say anything suggestive.
So what do you think? All your feedback is appreciated!
2007-08-30 21:15:24 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you talked to your 2nd mother about this?
If not, then do so. The idea here is that if anything does happen at least your 2nd mum is forewarned. No, I'm not saying this to frighten you, what I am saying is that if he's not a teacher in any of your classes, then you don't need to have any contact with him. If "anything" strikes you as being inappropriate, start keeping track of those things with days, dates, time etcetera. At least you will have it all down in writing. The first thing however, is to be able to sit down with your 2nd mum and talk to her. You sound as though you have a clear and mature mind, so I have no doubt that you should be able to communicate with your 2nd mum in that manner as well. Moms are good to talk to - Dads aren't much fun because they get emotional too quickly. It seems that mothers tend to be the buffers. If anything comes of this guy ogling you or if it goes further, you leave school (yes, just get up and walk out), go home immediately, and talk to you mum, show her your journal, and then get hold of the principal and report him for any inappropriate action. You are a teenager, and this kind of behaviour is unacceptable from anyone in a position of authority. It may be that it was just a one time thing, but as I said, if it escalates, take the necessary steps and do what you have to do. Your parents will back you. Just make sure you keep the lines of communication with them. They love you and I know they wouldn't want anything to happen to you. It's all about communication dear girl, never lose it.
2007-08-30 21:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by Jayngelcat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are attracted to chests like stink on poo. You should start coping with the fact that if you have a generous bossom men will stare at it a lot during your lifetime. Prepare for a life of admiration and at the same time a life of annoying people checking you out. But don't worry, as you grow up you'll show them that you are more than just your body.
And if you think his staring was too much, just avoid contact with this guy, and if he insists in staring at you, tell your parents and/or the school officials.
2007-08-30 21:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by Carlos Mal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were you wearing?
You attracted his attention. Maybe he cannot easily resist and didn't know it was bothering you. I'm not sure he's thinking in a perverted way... If he knew he was bothering you, I think he would've forced himself to stop.
You said he wasn't SO cute. Maybe he's lonely. Funny thing, staying away from pornography and things can sometimes incline someone even more to behave this way because of nature and not running interest dry by behaving in a perverted fashion at home. So I'm not sure you should be concerned about a few glances. I'm convinced he was unaware that you would be disturbed.
2007-08-30 21:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jonathan H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think he's a disgusting pervert. reguardless of how big your chest is ...... you are 13 years old. a child and his nasty azz is an adult.
I think you should talk to your parents about how uncomfortable he made you feel and they can look into getting you removed from the school if need be. With things going the way they are these days, where teachers and coaches are constantly in the news for sexually abusing children that they are responsible for educating..... that's what i would do.
I say talk to your parents and have them look into a transfer. if you are uncomfortable talking to your parents about this situation and really want to attend this school. aviod all contact with this creep. And if the disgusting looks from him keep coming, take it to an administator.
2007-08-30 21:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
What he did was extremely inappropriate and unprofessional. If something like that happens during the school year I would talk with your principal, parent, school nurse, etc, because no one should make you feel uncomfortable, especially a teacher at your school. Just remember: always speak up for yourself.
2007-08-30 21:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by grlspla2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's totally possible that he was checking you out, there is a teacher at my school who not only checks girls out, but has actually groped them. i know what you mean about your body, i was pretty much fully developed by 11, which is really unfortunate since you get guys twice your age checking you out all the time, but be proud of how you look. anyway, don't worry too much unless he starts to make a pass at you or something. if he does make a move on you, report him, he may be young, but he's a teacher and someone who is trusted with looking out for students, not being the predator.
2007-08-30 21:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by jackie o 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i honestly think that if you really feel this way and let someone at the school know because you dont want to feel like this all through out school. plus regardless of how mature you may look you are still 13....
2007-08-30 21:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by princess_shawnita 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He was probably just looking at your chest because, as you say, its bigger than most girls your age. If you get feelings for him, DONT act upon them. Just keep concentrating on your work and he will soon get over it. So will you... I hope this situation gets resolved for you :) all the best.
2007-08-30 21:21:33 · answer #8 · answered by Emma W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he was looking at you -
Evaluating how you acted and dressed. Just because you have a big bosem doesn't mean that he was interested in it.
By saying that he wasn't your type, it suggests that you were the one checking him out, not the other way around.
2007-08-30 21:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by mac 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You really need to tell your mom and the priceapal that is not good and impolite. I have a 11year old and she is starting to delveop and i would like her to tell me if someone was doing that to her
2007-08-30 21:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋