2007-08-30 19:52:02 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you allow it.
Get a back bone, tell him where the door is, dry up the funds, and say good bye.
You are at fault here, because you know how he is, but you still take it.
If you don't want him lying to you and taking your money, kick him out of your life. It is as simple as that.
He is a freeloader and he found a bundle of money in you. Not love, because you don't lie to someone you love. he is using you, and you must want to be used.
2007-08-30 19:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by litecandles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could type this in big bold letters.
He does it because you let him.
Why would he bother making a living if you take care of all of his needs. YOu are not in love. YOu are a prisioner of the heart and you are NOT making a good judgment with this guy.
You have to break away from him, If he truely loves you, you need to ask him to take care of his own financial needs. Cut him off cold. Kick him out of the house.
Move on. YOu are worthy of a man who is strong enough to earn his own living. You are worthy of a partnership with a man instead of you being his breadwinner, his mother, his sex object. YOu are way worth more.
It is better to be without a boyfriend than to have one who isn't responsible in his life.
You are the problem. YOU keep supporting him. He has it made. You should think enough of yourself to have more of a man and less of a baby. He doesn't respect you and probably doesn't even know what love is.
A true man take care of his woman. She is his princess.
She can be financially strong, but he needs to pull his weight, if not he is a chronic user.
hon, if you find a good guy you will fully and truely understand what love it. You are in an emotional prision with a man who is just a boy.
Move on, you are of great value!
2007-08-31 03:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you are allowing him to do it. Only you have control of the situation. Do you want to continue supporting him for the rest of his lazy miserable life? What do you think that he is doing when you are at work? He is probably spending your hard earned money on other women!!! Have some self respect and leave the jerk. If he can't hold a job, then he is worthless anyway. Don't let him use you like that. You deserve better than that!!!! This happens to nice girls all of the time. Don't continue to make yourself a victim. Tell him to hit the road!!!
2007-08-31 03:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well part of it may be psychological... Man usually wants to be in control... Since you are financially better off than him, he can't accept it.. Are you sure you are in love with this guy? This may be a good time to reconsider... It would be difficult to continue with a relationship knowing the other half is not as committed...
2007-08-31 03:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. G. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. He is a mooch and a loser. The situation will never improve. You were "user friendly". Stop that.
In the future... don't let any guy move in with you unless he is a proven item. Don't settle for less than getting to know him thoroughly, and his family, and don't settle for less than an engagement ring and a set wedding date before they move in. Don't sell yourself short. Make them earn the right to be with you. Have some standards!
2007-08-31 03:03:15 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you supporting him? You aren't him mother, and even if you were, he's old enough to take care of himself. Ditch him. You can do so much better, and you are way too young to be saddled with a freeloader like him.
2007-08-31 02:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by justanotherjunkaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he has found some one he can use ,as he accepts your money etc but if it stopped would be gone
He is lazy and a bluddger if allows any one to keep him ,
Go find a decent guy
2007-08-31 02:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because hes a loser and he needs to get his head out of his***-what you need to do is kick his a** to the curb-or you can give him a ultimatum. Theres no reason a man shouldn't be able to work. take the extra cash that you have left and go get you're hair done or treat yourself to something nice.
2007-08-31 03:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by meena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now this guy is a real dog. I can't tell exactly why he lies but you need to dump this guy fast. if he can't even support you then he is not worth it.
2007-08-31 02:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by beachbum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because YOU let him.
Do you see the red flags, yet?
It's time to dump the loser and find someone worthy of you!
2007-08-31 02:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋