Hi
Thanks in advance for you answers. I was married for 12 years and have been seprated for two and we are moving to divorce.
So I have been out of the dating game for some time. Over the last two months I have met a lovely women and we have been out regularly dancing and talking etc. My question is how to I gently move the relationship to the next level? I know she really likes me but I don't know if her feelings are depper. When we started going out she said that a lot people asked her out in the past and she said she onley wanted to be friends with them because there wasn't that level of attraction. She hasn't said that to me,so there may be something more. Also she said she wanted to take time to get to know someone. So time is what we are giving it. I just would like to advance it a bit to see if it will work. Overarching this, is that we both have had hard relatioships in the past.
Any advice greatly appreciated.
Many thanks
Drew
2007-08-30 18:48:30 · 6 answers · asked by Drew M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know, you are at a very vulnerable time right now, even though you have been seperated for 2 years. It makes a lot of sense to keep things clear cut. Wait until your divorce is completely final. Tell this lady that you would like to wait until that time. You've both had difficult relationships before. Wait until all strings are cut and start fresh from there. And pray about it. Ask God what He would have you do. He'll show you the way to go.
2007-08-30 18:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Glory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you want things to progress a little faster but you need to let her make the first move. You both have made very effectual mistakes and I know you don't want a repeat. Try giving her flowers or chocolates or champagne then see if this advances your relationship but, mainly, do alot of talking.
2007-08-31 01:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by Da B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her to dinner at your home. Do some cooking and have a few glasses of wine with dinner. After dinner plan a nice romantic movie (women love that). She will let you know how comfortable she feels by her reactions.
2007-08-31 01:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go, it will develop on it's own, If that won't do ,talk to her. We're all well adjusted people here. Adults that's what we are. Sorry but to me you sound like a 15 year old here.
God bless.
2007-08-31 02:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by luvspace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is talk to her... ask her how she feels about this relationship without coming across too agressive. Then tell her how you feel and what you want base on what she feels about the relationship between the two of you.
2007-08-31 01:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by Brianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Remember if you want any healthy relationship then you need to talk openly about what is on your mind. It is so refreshing to have a person that you can talk to without being judged.
2007-08-31 01:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by mpaz1966 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋