Today we all went to my in laws house, just to hang out and he comes in and he's always saying his little remarks about me,.... I today I exploded,... he said that my husband was contaminated and usually he will say: Just kidding, and just get away with it but tonight I got so mad and I snapped back before he could say anything and told him: WTF,.... Why dont u just be a man and tell me that your NOT kidding and dont pretend to like me, and stop saying your constant stupid remarks,........ so this guy got in my face, and said: I think your a jacka s s .... and I said: what?!!! He repeated it so I called him SCUM of the family, and then thats when everything was set off, every1 started gettin upset and my husband told him: Get the F outta my wife's face and be a man about it and face me,... what type of man confronts a woman? So then I grabbed my keys and just left,...... My in-laws were tryin to calm me down, becuz my eyes were a little teary.... and I do love my husband;s family,.....
2007-08-30 18:43:42 · 6 answers · asked by Justme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I love them all,... but I just dont want to try for him to like me,.... I dont feel like I should,,,,,, and I have never been a push over thats why I gave up on hiom a long time ago,. in the sense that I was not going to try to be nice no more just be like: hi & goodbye
2007-08-30 18:45:45 · update #1
I 4gt to mencion that today I have felt soo ackward becuz of what happened but I dont know what else to do or say
2007-08-30 18:50:06 · update #2
Your brother-in-law is jealous of his brother and he can not deal with it so he takes it out on the person that means the most to him that has help his brother succeed in life and make something out of hisself and that is you. He seen from the beginning that he could get away with and call it as a joke and knew that it would hurt you. Now you have decided to stand up for yourself and his brother comes to your defense and you told him something that was true and was told to him many of times before. By him being jealous it hurts him more and more when he sees that he does not have that and he feels that if he can not then why should any of his family have happiness. Then it may be that he wants what he can not have and that's also you. He wants you and it eats him up inside that you are someone that he wants and know that he can not have. Some family members do not know why they do not like their families significant other and they try to destroy the happiness that they have. In the future when ever you see him at family gathering ignore him that will eat him up even more when you do not say anything to him even if he says something nice you ignore him and do not try to hold a conversation with him and try to stay as far away as possible. He will try to get you to forgive him and then use that kindness against you and will hurt you all over again. I know that he is your husband's brother but you have to stay your distance because you do not know why he treats you the way he does and if he does have feelings for you, you trying to get alone may give a sense that you have feelings for him to and mistake that for an invitation. Just let your husband know that his brother is jealous of him and the relationship that he has and how happy he is and his brother can not deal with it or he may have feelings for you either way you do not know what is the reason for the attacks.
2007-08-30 19:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, he got what he was looking for. I hate to say it but your brother in law is a jerk. He had no right to speak to you that way. Not only should he apologize to you but to his brother and parents as well for his behavior. I would just ignore him not even a hello. I would not stop going to family things but, I would act as if he is none existent. It is still your husbands brother so if they talk you should be OK with that. If this guy has any class he will stop the drama, apologize and you both can move on. All I can say, from experience don't let him upset you as you then show that his words are of importance and they are not. He is ignorant and intelligent woman ignore when an ignorant person speaks.
2007-08-31 09:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every family has one jerk.
You don't have to put up with him.
Your husband at least stood up for you, which is GOLD. Be proud of him.
Ask your in-laws to give you a heads-up as to whether the jerk will be there. You should know if he is there if his car is parked there. If the in-laws will not comply with the request for some early warning, I would suggest that you and your husband stay away and give them a lot of time and space. Maybe consider meeting the in-laws at a restaurant for a jerk-free dinner.
2007-08-31 02:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well for one you least told him what you thought instead of keeping it inside. He make his remarks and you show him what you thought too. Relax and take some stress off. No matter what others think about what happen. Least you gave him a piece of your mind. Even if he don't talk or do **** to you anymore.
Least he knows you won't take his **** no more. Just becuz they r inlaws don't make them king and queens either.
2007-08-31 01:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by kygl28 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you reached your limit and acted as sane as anyone pushed that far. He had better apologize to you or avoid him altogether while still speaking to the rest of the family.
You did ok.
2007-08-31 01:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Fixguy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u know what.. i'd do the same if i were u... and i congratulate u for stepping out and have the courage enough to face him fair and square... u need not hide ur feelings... don't feel bad of wat u did.. u did wat any person wud have done... now its his turn to make amends... and for sure i think he's gonna do it...
2007-08-31 02:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Zykoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋