i really don't trust my g/f around other guys. What can I do to help or change the way I feel?
2007-08-30 18:38:10 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is really not about your girlfriend this is about you. You have to have the confidence in yourself that no matter what she is with you. And yes people do cheat but you can't spend the rest of your life worring about what she is doing every minute of the day if you do then you are with the wrong woman in the first place. Believe in yourself not to be cocky about it but that you are a good man, a good person worthy of her and another woman if she does decide to be a sleezebag and cheat on you. Which I am assuming she has not so stop worring. You guys will be fine. Good luck.
2007-08-30 18:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be because you have been hurt in the past? Or she may have done something to make you feel a bit insecure??
If you trust your girl wont hurt you then u have nothing to worry about - Because after all, trust is the main key to any relationship ... If there isnt any trust then you will have to work on this .. Gain that trust back.
Talk to her and let her know how u feel and why you are feeling this way. Once she knows how u feel then you will both be able to work on this together.
2007-08-31 01:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it you don't trust? Is it that she might find someone she likes more? Jealousy comes from you feeling inadequate, lack of confidence and thinking other guys are a threat to you. Eventually you will push her away because you will try and poses her like a piece of property. You would put a no trespassing sign on her if you could.
Start working on your self-esteem. If yo believe that you have to change things about yourself i.e. exercise more, different hair cut etc. you can do that. The better you feel about yourself the less threatened you will feel by other guys. If she still likes to hang with other guys and flirt maybe its time to move on.
2007-08-31 01:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tetonka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My questions is why don't you trust her?
Lack of trust is not a good thing for a relationship, but if her behaviour is such that it borders on the unnaceptable, then it's not so much you needing to change as it is you needing to sit her down tell her what she is doing that is making you feel that way.
However, if you know her behaviour doesn't warrant your distrust, then you already have a starting platform for your change.
Be careful though, distrust can eventually breed untrustworthy behaviour in others.
2007-08-31 01:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by MikeTez S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust her, then you should not be with her. Is she that untrustworthy, or are you that insecure. If it is you, I have some very important advice to give you. Jealousy ruins relationships and friendship. You should always give the people that you care about the benefit of the doubt, until they prove themselves unworthy!!! How would you feel if she treated you that way???
2007-08-31 01:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust her, there is a reason-maybe a past relationship with another person, or what she has done before, talk to her about it. Communication is the key word in a good relationship =)
2007-08-31 01:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by SSS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone takes away your piece of mind then you are better off not with them. If you want to work things out and she hasn't given you a reason to suspect her then try telling her how you feel. Do Not accuse her. Say it more like you are so attractive and easy to like that I feel worried that you'll fall for some other guy.... Or ask her to reassure you that she only wants you. Remember that most women, including myself, like attention from guys, it lets us feel attractive, but we take that energy back to the man we love!
2007-08-31 01:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by The thinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it really her that you don't trust, or the guys you know might try to get with her? That unavoidable, so you're going to have to man up and trust her and get over it.
2007-08-31 01:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the reason? is it because she's not trustworthy? or because you're insecure?
if you're insecure, u need to swallow that and build some confidence. its sexy.
if u dont trust her, talk to her.
if u dont trust the dudes, hopefully u know u can trust ur lover enough that it can ease ur mind
2007-08-31 01:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by HassleBassle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal, Foong also same with u...
What u need to do is...
Give her space and time...
If u really love her then u must respect her...
If she really love u, then she will never betray u even she is going out with another guys, she will love u one guy only...
So, trust her if u love her...
Good Luck...
Cheers...
2007-08-31 01:43:44 · answer #10 · answered by WindWalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋