he's already 32 but is already stable & still hot although he's almost getting bald....anyways, we have been texting each other for quite some time now & he has been extra caring & hospitable whenever we & our friends are together...he has sent me a message before that he misses me but until now he hasn't said if he feels something for me or what? i'm interested in him although i got a lot of choices right now...if he wouldn't make his move soon, i think i have to choose another...should i let him know first or should i wait for him still? (i'm only 22 by the way)
2007-08-30 18:26:46 · 28 answers · asked by leighn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my other choices are ages 20, 21, 23 & 26...actually there's also a kid who is trying his luck...he's 14! (I'm just 5'0" & many people say i look young for my age)
2007-08-30 18:44:46 · update #1
i've had just 1 relationship in high school, then after until now, i haven't had.
my level of maturity? i'm the youngest in the family but i'm not the spoiled brat type, i've been on my own since i entered college...my family has been in another country, i actually am the only one left here.
his stability? he's a licensed mechanical engineer, working in a multinational company...he has 2 siblings & he's the eldest, he's the only left single among them.
2007-08-30 19:13:30 · update #2
From what your first line says, you don't mention anything about him that is really a basis of forming a relationship with him. Age rarely matters as long as you are both "of age". You say he's stable, do you mean financially, mentally, spiritually, emotionally? These things make a difference. If he hasn't made a move by now, there is something holding him back. Maybe it's your age, or more to the point, your level of maturity. You say you have alot of choices. He probably knows this as well as you do and that may be why he hasn't made a move. I doubt that at 22, you are ready to settle on an almost bald, albeit still hot, man. Looks don't really make a relationship. If you want something with him, then go for it. More than likely, he would like an exclusive relationship though and doesn't think that you'd be in it for the long haul. Men will rarely not act upon opportunities to be with someone they really want to be with. The fact that he hasn't just tried to get in your pants should let you know that he cares about you in more than a casual way. Men normally don't wear their hearts on their sleeves either. What if he were to tell you exactly how he feels and you rejected him? Then he would be more than vulnerable. If you want him, tell him so. He's allowing you the opportunity to have the upper hand, if you want it, take it. If not, then don't send mixed signals. Make your own intentions clear and take it from there.
2007-08-30 18:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by sandwolf2112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all, 32 years is no guarantee that he wont act like a 12 year old. Some 21 year old men have much older souls and some 50 year olds act like infants. We men are just wired that way so don't get it into your mind that age necessarily means maturity, stability and honor.
The fact that he is text chatting with you is a bad sign maturity-wise. Real men look you in the eye and tell you how they feel. 10 years difference - well that depends on how mature you actually are. I've seen very few 10 year gaps work until the woman is at least 28-30. When you're younger than that, men 10 years older than you are generally looking for a women who seems less stress filled and 'lower maintenance" than women their own age.
As I said, the fact that he isn't coming to you in direct terms but seems to be toying means he's could be into head games or one of the lame *** pick up psychological theories that you see more guys reading these days. Pick up one of these books if you want a laugh. Just go straight up to him and see what's what.
2007-08-31 01:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by the_kidfrost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
22, isnt that such a sad age? i mean 21 is your last really fun age! Its all down hill from there! I got kina excited this birthday when I turned 25 because my car insurance went down! lol but now I have to wait until im 30, 40, 50 omg why am I so old? 22 and hes 32 thats not too much of a diffrence but I have seen some really old and really young looking 32 year olds. Im guessing when im 32 I may be balding thats not an issue you should worry about. What were his past relation ships like and why isnt he married by now is what you should worry about!
14 no way leave him alone, guys around 21, 22 should be in their sexual prime get them while you can! hehe
2007-08-31 04:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by paul b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAve you tried to give him clues that you also like him. We are not in the old days any more in which women had to wait for the guy to ask the girl out. Now i think girls should ask guys aout aswell. Maybe you should try to give him hints and try to ask some of his friend if he likes you and if he is waiting if thats the case than wait but if not move on. **** luck
2007-08-31 01:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the baldness issue shaved is still kinda in so that is always an option...i am going w/ older myself for the stability, absence of games, etc. men @ his age are often looking for someone younger because they are trying to hold on to this idea of youthfulness. i would ride it out. although he could be using you to make himself feel better. take it as a learning experience that you actually may find love out of.
2007-08-31 01:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by q8336b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha... I know the feeling. My guy is 31 and I'm 19! I think you should tell him if you want a relationship. If he doesn't, move on. If he does age shouldn't matter. My guy is amazing... even though he's 12 years older than me!
2007-08-31 01:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tonya Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all age doenst matter, as long as u love each other, and second of all, We women want to equal up to men as much as possible. If u want to tell him exactly how u feel, and he doesnt want to commit, maybe it is just too soon for him. Go ahead and (MAKE YOUR MOVE)!! Good Luck!!
2007-08-31 01:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by Bandice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he been honest to you? Involved in another relationship or worst married, is he? He's probably bothered by his conscience because he's not being truthful to you although he likes you very much. Then again maybe I'm just mumbling.......think about it, Okay?
2007-08-31 01:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by hungrykong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to meet you for lunch one day, and find out what his intentions are. Right now you should probably not be getting too serious with anyone, but if you are really interested, that is the way to handle it.
2007-08-31 01:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I are 8 years apart and I thought it wouldnt work out ... I was wrong. Give him some time though. If its been over a year then maybe its time to move on.
2007-08-31 01:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋