Well me and my boyfriend have been together 1 year 3 months and it's going to be forever!! BUT, he looks out the corner of his eye to look at someone else, he always gets angry when I look through his phone, he sees a girl I don't like and doesn't tell me about it.( the one he fouled around with on me) An d lately he wants space. We live togwther and I get confused. Should I give him space? Change my appearence, because I always want to be wit him, what am I doing wrong??
2007-08-30 18:20:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Making the wrong choice of staying with a guy who whats to look elsewhere. Hey, look at it this way, thank God you didn't have kids! Be smart, make a plan to leave and while your doing it, have a fling.
2007-08-30 18:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by nancie_usa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your gut feeling...
This guy is trying to get away. He is secretive. He wants space. He is on the lookout for his next girlfriend if he doesn't already have one. Check his cell phone bill when it comes in.
Men are very basic. They think about sex, food, sports and maybe work (if you are lucky). They don't value the easy catch like you. If they have to work for it, they are much more likely to stick with it.
You did the wrong thing by moving in with him. Nothing you can do will change his attitude. You were far too easy. You were "user friendly".
Don't move in with a guy unless you have a real commitment... we're talking an engagement ring and a wedding date set. You don't give sex unless they have earned the privilege of your complete trust first... that takes a lot of time. If a guy doesn't want to take the time to get to know you fully as a friend first, he will move on to easier pickings.
2007-08-31 01:35:08 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants space because you are smothering him. Find a friend of your own to do some things with, let him have some of his own friends. I would be more worried if he didn't glance at other girls....it's normal. The reason he doesn't tell you about girls he sees out is because you over react. Keep acting like a head case and you will drive him away. Sorry, I am not trying to hurt your feelings, just being honest with you.
2007-08-31 01:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look no matter what you do a man will always be a man. I mean looking is looking don't tell me you never checked out a guy before . Another thing have you thought that maybe he is the one with the issues look if your not happy the best thing you can do is move on and find someone who appreciates you and is willing to love you they way you deserve to be.
2007-08-31 02:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by chunkybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can u say its going to be forever if he wants space?? girlfriend, give him the space he wants.. hes not ready for the FOREVER thing that you are sayin.. yes you are jealous of some girls and its a natural thing, but its also natural for guys to look at some girls, your boyfriend is not blind! remember that! i wonder how old are you?? anyway, i agree with you to change things, love your self first and foremost!!! "give your self the time of your life"! learn to live and love in such a way that guys will beg you to stay with him, NOT you begging someone to stay with your forever! geeeh girl show that GIRL- POWER!!! and lastly, dont wait for the right one to come, instead be the RIGHT one for other/s. You'll see, the OTHER/S will come runnin to yah... ciao
2007-08-31 01:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by macki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing wrong? How about getting some self-esteem? He CHEATED on you, tells you he needs space, and makes you feel like you need to please him all the time....wow....sounds like a real winner you got there. Now tell me again why you want to be with him? Sounds like you need to ditch the guy. You are much more serious about him than he is about you and if you keep on dating him, you're only going to be heartbroken in 6 months WHEN he dumps your dependent butt.
2007-08-31 01:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think d2 of u needs to trust one another... no secrets... ask him wat he wants in u and u do the same... have a heart2heart talk wid him... open each other and put that trust in urselves
2007-08-31 03:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by Zykoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋