Does anybody know what real love is anymore?

Question

Why is everybody so quick to move onto the next person, instead of really trying to make their current relationships work? And people wonder why nobody believes them when they say "I love you".

Answer 1

The problem with the whole subject of love is that during childhood we are conditined to believe that love is not important to a relationship. As children we are taught, mostly by example, that love is about physical beauty, financial stability, and most importantly sex. We tell teens and pre-teens that they don't know what love is when THEY probalby understand it better than most adults. We make relationships about age, money and things that don't really mean anything with regard to love. There are people that know what real love is, but unfortunately they are usually broken long before they find someone else that understands it. Normally before they even finish school and always by the very authority figures that are supposed to be showing them what love really is.

As far as people not believeing someone wht they say "I love you." That too is part of that conditioning, from years of having been told by others that people that said this were either lying or didn't know what love really was. This resulted in a great many people having an inability to believe when someone does love them. ALSO factored in is an inability to believe that anyone SHOULD love them, again from years of being told that specific people didn't, causing them to question why they were not worth anyone loving.

Add to that the fact that people are all to often advised to move on, even before they want to, or if they don't to. The idea of taking the time to adjust to their loss is almost non existant as people are "encouraged" (read as forced) to move on whether they want to or not.

So Yes ther are some that DO know that real love is. They are usually derided, insulted and made to feel stupid becasue so few people understand it, to the point where they stop being able to recognize it when it comes.

Answer 2

It's all about the thrill of the chase. Most people are not willing to work hard for Mr. / Ms. Right, when Mr. / Ms. Right Now is available. They think that they can drop the current bf / gf "if" the right one comes along, instead of being secure enough to hold out for the best option. So, they wind up settling for far less than they rightfully deserve, which is unfortunate. And along the way, they cheapen the value of saying "I love you," as you mention.

I would conclude by saying that anything worth having, comes with a price. The best relationships will be with people who are willing to pay the price, over and over, until they can win the man (or woman) of their dreams. That requires courage, tenacity, and a fair amount of hard work. But the results are worth it.

Answer 3

Most people don't even know what love is any more. They mistake selfish infatuation with love. They think that "love" is when they fell all excited and mushy. Then , when the initial lovey-dovey feelings are gone , they say that they have "fallen out of love." Real love is a commitment. It is action rather than feeling. It is choosing to still care for someone when they are sick, cranky, or annoying. Nobody is perfect and we all have those kind of days. True love is caring more about the needs and feelings of another than we care about our own needs and feelings. Unfortunately, books , television , and popular culture are teaching most of our society this false ,immature view of love. It is really sad :(

Answer 4

just think of how many lonely people are out there and rember that most men get bored easy they are like walmart they love change. You need to try to rember that men are taught early to shop and never to settle the term "the grass is always greener on the other side " probly came from men.So be patient and hang in there you will know when the time is right okay!! Be Patient.

Answer 5

I remember a line from the book The Little Prince, it says, "love is my gentle way of leading you to who you are and not to who I want you to be." This has been my guiding principle when I love, real love seem so ideal but when you think less of yourself in loving then you will experience true love. The thing to do when you're in love is grow with it and experience each day with the little love you share. Your life would tell you what is true love and what is not in the end. Just live your life believing in love and you'll have it.

Answer 6

Well, sometimes it is actually better to move, because some relationships aren't worth the misery and you end up finding someone millions of times better. But I do sort of agree with you, I think all too often people throw away their love too easily. Its sad, really.

Answer 7

i think that there are so many people on this planet and it is so easy to give up rather than work on things that people often want the easy way out. as for not believing if someone says they love you maybe that is a personal issue.

Answer 8

i thought i did. when i found the girl of my dreams. she didnt seem like an *** and was perfect. 2 weeks later shes making out with my best freind. im about to give up on love it self and go back to the tap and go.

Answer 9

not me. im still in love with my ex and its been 7 months. things didnt work out but i still love him with all my heart. but what can i do. nothing. there are ppl out there who truly do know how to love.

Answer 10

Because divorce is so accessable these days....you can get a "do it yourself" kit for $99.00!!! Its not a sacred thing anymore...so sad!!