I personally think that because of the age difference, it's uncomfortable, at the same time i want to, but not sure. he thinks that its okay for me to give it up after 2 months of if not he should be able to touch, but i think differently, hes 20 and im 17, i just need some advice, hes not a virgin and been with a few different girls. I want it to be special and witht the right person, just don't wanna give it up that quickly, even though we both love each other.
any advice,
and plz don't be assholes. thnx
2007-08-30 18:05:06 · 10 answers · asked by moon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he's just tryin to get in your pants... it doesn't sound like love, it sounds like lust. Once he gets it he'll probably stick around for a few more months... but he's def not the "one". The guy you've been waiting for wouldn't be pressuring you like that, not after two months. Tell him he's just going to have to wait. Trust me... if you do it you'll regret it!!
2007-08-30 18:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by thatguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should do some more management of your inner self. At this age, the right thing for you to do is to get a job
and stay focussed on your career. What you can do is to
think more practically and maybe when you are 23 or 24 just have a baby. This way you have put your best years to work
to make money to keep for your kids which would happen later on in your life. A career in maybe Med transcription, fashion design, IT etc., would be the best choice at this age.
What the future holds for you is woman hood , not adolecense which you are going through now.So it may be best to plan for that phase of your life which is going to come.
If you plan well at this stage of your life, you can even be so successful to take early retirement at 40 or 45 and be happy with the children and thier lives
2007-08-31 01:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by Gopal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that he told the other girls that they were special, too. In love, look after yourself. He wants it and so will others. It is natural to have feelings like you do. As a man, I would question a 20 year old who was dating a 17 year old and asking her to give up her virginity. Frankly, I don't like this guy. Sorry, just being honest and wish you the best.
2007-08-31 01:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything that you will be sorry for later. If he truly loves you he will respect your decision. He wouldn't pressure you. Take the time you need. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing anything you don't feel ready for.
He's been with a few different girls. Was it their first time also? So he makes a conquest then moves on. Is he keeping score? Do what you believe is right for you.
2007-08-31 01:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by Tetonka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time, we fail to understand ourselves. We are controlled by our emotions and pressured by the crowd we belong to.
Let me ask you this:
Are you emotionally ready to accept failure?
Are your comfortable with the idea that one way or another, you will be replaced by someone else?
Will it make you a better person?
I dont have the right answers, but keeping in touch with your inner self will be the best help.
Now if you did let go, i suggest you protect yourself and try to have a good time.
:-)
2007-08-31 01:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by nlgatdula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to wait till you reached 20 and while he became 23 and insist idea is right, you should be patient and see whether he changed his attitudes.
If he really loves you, he would wait, if not, he is not the right guy.
2007-08-31 12:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by l0_ha_l0_ha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely wait...
most likely you may not marry him(or you may)
but you should wait until you marry..and share it with that special person. And seriously do you want to sleep with someone who's slept with other girls?..it's not special at all, unless he's really going to be with you forever.
If he really loves you, he'd wait.
2007-08-31 01:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by Josie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really? I dont think its a great idea.....Love is such a strong word,but if he really loves you he wont touch or play....this way you will know if he is mr. right....Take it slow sex is/isnt everything,sex later, loving know....give as many more months as possible 5 or more,earn your respect
2007-08-31 01:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all... dont succumb to pressure... if he is the one insisting for it.. and saying that the survival of your relationship is on this deed forget it. .. dump him.. i would suggest u wait till marriage.. i tried .. but lost it to the wrong person at the age of 25 ... still regret it... its your call girl... i suggest you wait a few more years{}
2007-08-31 01:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by who ?? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'd just have sex with the guy. If you really love him you wouldn't have a problem with it.
2007-08-31 01:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by Derek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋