Mother in law talking crazy stuff?

Question

My mother in law who is staying with us and undergoing treatment for breast cancer and talking crazy stuff...she seems to be out of her mind and shouting at me all the time. I do so much for her, take care of her during her treatment, cook for her etc and I think she should be thankful to me. Instead she tells my husband to divorce me and live with her at her place. She talks ill of my parents all the time because they live in the same town as us and I visit them at least once a week. It helps me also as I can have a well-deserved break from my MIL. She accuses my parents of being selfish and possesive about their daughter. My husband asks me to ignore her words and have pity on her as she is a cancer patient and he is her only child. But even my patience has a limit. How long can I take this crap? Please help me. Do cancer patient

sorry my message was truncated. I wanted to know if cancer patients undergoing radiation/chemotherapy often go crazy like this?

Answer 1

Is this a change in her personality, or is her usual personality magnified?

If it is a change, you and your husband should discuss it with her doctor. Breast cancer can metastasize to the brain, radiation to the brain can cause problems, and many many drugs can cause problems.

If this is just more of the same, well, that's the way it is, and she will suffer the natural consequences of her behavior. People don't get sweet just because they get cancer.

Best wishes,

MM

Answer 2

No good deed goes unpunished. You are right your mother in law should be thank full for all you do and what difference does it make how often you see your parents and how they treat your sister. The woman is afraid and has nothing else to think about. I do not know the stage of her cancer but in this case your husband is right what are you going to do fight with her? Your in a no win position. I would try to keep your family business and where you go between you and your husband the less she knows the less she can say. However if she is anything like my mother in law I am sure she will find something. Good luck and God Bless you as I would not be doing this.

Answer 3

Cancer and it's treatment can make us moody, depressed, angry etc and we may take that out on others.

This sounds far beyond what could be considered normal, unless she was always a *****!

If she hates your company this much, suggest she moves back to her own home and looks after herself.

You don't mention how far along her cancer is......

I went through breast cancer treatment as a single parent looking after a teenage daughter, while still working.

My mother went through it while still running the home for 6 children!

Unless it is in advanvced stages and moved to her brain, it is not an excuse for this type of behaviour.

Answer 4

When my father found out he had cancer,he obviously didn,t want to die, but he just went really quiet and you just about had to rip the words out of his mouth.He only had weeks to live,so we as a family sealed his fate with chemo,He got really agro with Nurses,Doctors and even the poor cleaners,but never his family.With us he was just dad but a very sick dad,he got more and more angry with all hospital staff,one day when we came earlier than usual we found my dad in his bed with his arms tied to the sides.And when we asked what was going on they said he got violent with one of the nurses,(still no way to treat a patient)The point is with the cancer and the chemo,and dont forget a bloody awful death.These people need family who care,whats so wrong with taking a bit of flak sh*t we take more from our kids but we still love them.Patience and thick skin is needed,hope you have it.And I hope your mil makes it,my father didn,t.

Answer 5

Wash every last bit of hateful stuff that she says out of your mind. The woman has cancer and all she can think of is her cancer and death. She probably resents everyone no matter how wonderful they treat her. you , my dear, have a very special position in her life and the ability to let her nastiness wash down your back. We can all be in her position some day. It is nice to be able to have someone to shoot our pain at. What your mother-in-law really wants to do is sob out loud. Take her in your arms and allow that to happen.

Answer 6

Was she like this before she took ill?Don't let this come between you & your husband.She is going through a lot.Cancer is a cruel disease & does play with your mind.You might want to talk with her doctor about the problem.There may be something they can give her to help her with whatever's going on [if it is caused by the effects of the illness].I hope everything gets better for your family.

Answer 7

I didn't. She sounds terrible. Was she like this before getting ill? She could be around for years. Put your foot down. You are the wife. She is so out of line. Your husband has to put his foot down. If he can't do this, both of you go see a counselor about how to deal with this. It really could destroy your marriage. It isn't worth it.

Answer 8

Not to my knowledge do cancer patients become this way. That is rough. I think you need a heart to heart talk with your husband and tell him you can not take it much longer. And make him understand.--if possible. (and you can't) Good luck to you--you need all the luck you can get.

Answer 9

Pls u see the oncologist. And u know more about cancer. Pls visit this

Answer 10

yes, most cancer paitent undering going surgery becomes ill temepered and emotional, but the best solution here is to treat her nicely during the surgery so she can recover faster, but when she does recover, you stab her in the face and be like bizniatch, cancer didn't kill u, but i did hahahahah