my nephew is always hitting my neice and when i tell him to stop he says your not the boss of me and hits people and says bad words.
2007-08-30 16:32:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes Yes.....spank the crap out of him and but a bar of soap in his mouth!
2007-08-30 16:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by catlady 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should never spank a child that is not your own. Talk to his parents and let them decide, if they do not want you to spank ask them what method of discipline they use when he's abusive to his sister. I do however believe in spanking. I would like all those people who say it is bad to explain to me why the more recent generations (who's parents didn't believe in spanking) are more violent than the generations of us who grew up and got spanked. Discipline is a must when raising children or you get children who have no concept of action and consequence, let alone any respect for authority of any kind.
2007-08-30 23:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should discuss this with the boy's parents. Some parents have blinders on and don't see the fault of their own children.
Tell the parents that you are only pointing out a potential problem that will grow worse as the two get older.
I wouldn't spank without the consent of the parents....unless you are babysitting and it's warranted.
2007-08-30 23:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by Clueless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to deal with some really whiney fussy neices and nephews... irritating as all get-out.
I used my dad's method... warn verbally first, then after that, the "thump on the head". I'm not kidding... one finger THUMP on top of the head... out of nowhere! Really gets their attention fast and lets them know you mean business!
Then you can tell them and have them believe you that things will indeed escalate from there if they don't behave.
You can separate them into different rooms if you have to.
Practice on the table top... index or middle finger... THUMP!
2007-08-31 02:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you've exhausted all other alternatives, you need to put this kid in line. Dont beat the kid... but i agree with a hand slap or a smack to his tush. For all you know, it might be exactly what the kid needs to realize what he's doing to other people hurts them.
You should also tell his parents and let them deal with the situation and if it persists....
As for the bad words... dont you remember you mom saying if you say that again im going to wash your mouth out with soap? There is nothing toxic in soap... and all it will take is once and he'll never do it again.
It seems like everyone wants to put their kid in the corner or give the kid's toy a time out... but if you've tried everything else... are you going to sit there and let him abuse his sister because you dont want to abuse him? Who looses here?
2007-08-30 23:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him calmly. Tell your niece that it is not o.k. to let someone hit her and she should tell her parents and you. Sit him in the corner and give him time outs when he behaves badly. Ignore him when he behaves badly. Scold him when he behaves badly. Threaten that you will take something away, he won't get something or that you will spank him if he doesn't.
But, DON'T spank him - he obviously thinks hurting by hitting solves problems and he has a big one.
2007-08-30 23:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by LaraLara 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say you need to speak with his parents about the problem to see if they want you to spank him. If they give the okay then it is up to you. If they say no then you need to tell them the problems you are having and ask how they would like you to handle the situation. If he continues the problem and the parents don't want to take measures to fix the problem then say you won't watch him anymore.
2007-08-30 23:38:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kerri W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I guess in a situation like this you need to find out how your sibiling would feel if you spanked his or her child....it could end up causing conflict between you and your sibling if you do...if telling him that what he is doing and saying is not ok and trying to redirect his behavior is not working you may want to have a talk with his mom or dad and see if you can help them to work out the problem....and if that fails you can always ask grandma or grandpa to step in and interviene....
2007-08-30 23:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by squishiepie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know spanking is not the answer and if you think about it all he is going to do is get very upset and will continue to hit even more....what i suggest is that you give him time out one minute for every year of his life and trust me he will be mad at first but this will stop him and he will respect you...he has to be silent during time out by the way and if he talks then time out will start all over again...pick a place for him to sit or whatever for time out...good luck!
2007-08-30 23:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by La Misma! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Even though you want to, that's the parents job. And if the kid turns out bad, then it's not your problem. It's good that you're worried and want to do something about it, but tell the parents to do this for you.
2007-08-30 23:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋