My Boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 7 months and we have been having sex for a little over 5 months. For some reason when we have sex I never 'get off'. I have only one time, but why is it that i have this problem? is it him or me? or could it be a lot of different things?
2007-08-30 16:26:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh God, you've been doing it for 5 months and only one time?
Do you get off when you do yourself? Practice make perfect, especially here.
Does he go down? I've never not gotten off...but hey that's me. I always get off before I ever let him penetrate me....one way or another. Well, almost always. You need to change your attitude and start demanding more.
2007-08-30 16:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It could be a lot of things.. Only you know....
1. When you masterbate, can/do you get off? If so then it isn't a physical problem... (at least in that aspect)
2. You do know that some, actually a LOT of women, cannot have an orgasm from simple intercourse alone and need extra stimulation...
3. Is he .. umm.. TAKING care of you as well??
4. Are you faking it or telling him what you want, need or desire? If you are faking it then you are cheating both of you out of a lot of great experiences...
Honey, you need to talk with him.. communication is a big part of sex and is something that you can never lose sight of... If you are nervous about talking with him, then adjust him to the necessary places during the act ( whether its his hand, mouth or body)... Introduce toys into the mix... (be careful with this one.. unless you communicate the reasons and let him know it isn't him, some men can get a little sensitive and defensive when this happens.. on the other hand some find it incredibly erotic)... try different positions and acts....
Work it out though, because it isn't fair to either one of you, no matter what the reason is... To not have you both enjoying the act completely... and will cause resentment and frustration later on....
Good Luck!
2007-08-30 23:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by CheyMarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i didnt come until me and my bf had been having sex for a bit over 6 months. why? my guess is b/c of a few things that happened when i was younger and my being brought up that sex outside of marriage wasthe most horrible thing one oculd do and it was dirty.
Now however, i realise i can make my own choices, my own decisions, and it is my body. I have learned to relax more when he and i have sex. Now i often come, and i dont see how i enjoyed sex before. I dont think it is anything that either of you can fix right away. just be mor eopen with each other, try to relax a bit more, and explore both of your sexualaities as much as you can together. and you will come naturally when you are ready.
2007-08-30 23:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by lirpa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a really common female problem. Men have sex with their penis and women have sex with their heads. You need to be stimulated mentally as well as physically. Since i dont think the mental aspect is a problem here i think its the lack of attention to your female parts. I think you need to direct your bf to go down on you, or you need to physcially stimulate yourself durring sex. Your clitoris needs physcal stimulation in order to get off. Think of it like a women's penis.... its where you need to put your attention. Or maybe invest in a sex toy. There are tons out there. In fact there is one that just hit the market a little while ago, it comes in a box of condoms, they are about 12 bucks and its this vibrating ring that goes around the guy's penis while you have sex. Its a durlex brand and i believe its called 'pleasuremax' or something like that. Its worth trying. And your guy should be just as interested in getting you off as you are him!
2007-08-30 23:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is for married people only. He is totally disrespecting you by asking for sex without the commitment of marriage. Have some respect for yourself and wait until your wedding night with your husband.
2007-08-30 23:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably a little of both but if you expect him to read your mind and know what turns you on then it may never happen.
Be ready to listen to what turns him on as well and have an open mind.
Good Luck
2007-08-30 23:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by BILL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first answer is - it's him... but it's never that simple. You need to be completely relaxed, you need to be 'in the moment', you need to trust the guy. He needs to know what he's doing, you need to know what you need and not be afraid to ask for it. It requires a lot of trust, and time, and patience... there's nothing 'wrong' with you if that's what you're worried about.
2007-08-30 23:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he hasn't got a clue what he's doing......mine gets hers at least 3 or 4 times, every time...he needs an anatomy class from you....you're going to have to show him where that little sweet spot of yours is and how to rub it the right way to get you off.....
2007-08-30 23:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by #1 bossman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of different things.
Could be you`re tooo young to be having sex..
Or your mind is somewhere else..
If your not in the mood. that`ll affect it.
2007-08-30 23:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by candy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
alot of girls have that problem. it could be your not relaxing and enjoying it like you should.it could be alot of different things. but its not uncommon for that to happen to woman. if you feel comfortable ask your dr. for some tips or advice.
2007-08-30 23:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by Fran J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋