Im 15 yrs old and my boyfriend of 7 months recently broke up with me. Ever since we've been broken up i feel fat and ugly...i need a guy! advice?
2007-08-30 16:25:12 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get a dildo
2007-08-30 16:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by mo b 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sometimes the thing you want the most is the thing you need the least. Be a kid, do good in school, have fun with your girlfriends, and WAIT FOR A GUY TO WANT AND PURSUE YOU. If you go chasing, you get guys who are too lazy to invest time and interest in a girl, so you'll wind up feeling the lonely feeling you have now not only when they leave you, but while your with those types of boys as well.
Another thing, at 15, you're going to be healthy and attractive and lots of guys are going to want to hook up with you. It's a very unfair fact of life, but usually, it seems like thinner girls do get treated with more respect. It's not a good thing, but that's the way it seems to be. If you have a weight problem, take care of it now while you're young and strong. Don't wait until you have kids and your metabolism slows down.
I'm sure you're very nice and attractive, but you don't need a relationship the way you think you do - you'll be fine holding out a little longer for the right guy.
2007-08-30 23:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a guy. You need self-esteem. Obviously you don't get true self-esteem from a guy - since he's dumped you, you feel worthless. What happens when the next guy dumps you? You can't be dependent on them to make you feel beautiful and worthy. You have to build that in yourself. Then you will have the strength to withstand break-ups without falling apart. Then you will have more of what it takes to find and keep the right kind of guy.
And don't be in such a hurry. Although you can't see it now, 15 is too young to be too involved with a boy. Work on yourself, do your best in school and things will get better.
2007-08-30 23:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are on the rebound so you are vernable. Stay away from guys for a while until you get over him. And a guy isn't a necessity. When you are over him, and are really ready to get a guy. You should just be yourself, I know that sounds cliche since you are 15 but you will find out that it's true. That's the best way to get the right guy :)
2007-08-30 23:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal for you to feel fat and ugly after a break up. My advice to you is to learn how to be happy with yourself while you are not in a relationship, then, when a guy comes along, you will feel more secure knowing that if/when the relationship ends, you will be happy to be single again.
2007-08-30 23:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by Clueless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so sad. dont feel ugly and fat. you willl not become such by a broken relation ship. the reason he broke up was that he did npt love you , he only loved your body., when he tired of it he left you. so try to pass time with any of youe female freinds. the femals understand your psycohlogy more thanany boy and can be great healing for you. plus after a while you heal up, look for a boy that is with you for you and not for your body, .
be know n that if a guy is attracted to you by youtr looks he will certainly leave you. and a boy that is attracted by youyr internal qualties will never hurt you. so what you need to do is to make yourself sober. for example wear covered clothes, good clothes but dont expsoe yur obsy parts. then live your life as normal. dont allow any boy to guess about your privates, just show smiles at your face always. then any guy attrated to you will be due to your inner beauty. the inner beuty includes your behaviour, your softness for a boy, your care for a boy, try to attract a guy with these things. only serious and true loving guys are attracted to inner beauty.
feeling so sad for you...
2007-08-30 23:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by PHD 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The most attractive thing about a girl to a guy is when she really believes that she's hot. when a girl compares herself with other girls saying thiing like, "oh, how are they so skinny, im soo fat!" it turns a guy off. so flaunt yourself, and show that you are the best thing that could ever happen to a guy (but dont get too high in ur self esteem! ;D) once you do that you will feel great, and guys will feel great towards you. Best of luck!
2007-08-30 23:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by Wayne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey... you do NOT need a guy... you need a hobby... you need to concentrate and become immersed in your school work. Maybe you can take up walking or running as a hobby and kill 2 birds with one stone. If you keep looking for boys to make you feel fulfilled you'll have this problem your whole life. Break the habit now!
2007-08-30 23:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by Uhuru 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i know how that feels. having a guy makes us feel good about ourselves. but just becuz u dont currently have a boyfriend doesn't mean u are fat and ugly. search around, flirt a little. but dont worry, another guy will come along. sometimes patience is the best thing. and remember not to strike out as desperate. let them come to u. and they will dont worry :)
~em
2007-08-30 23:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try being independent girl! really you don't need a boyfriend to not feel "ugly and fat". you're just looking for a rebound guy and you're gonna end up hurting or getting hurt.
2007-08-30 23:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by rawr. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, you are just depressed. Your self image shouldnt change because of a man (boy) leaving you. You are who you are and as strong as you are because of you, not anyone else. It's nice to have a person around but don't get with anyone to just have someone, that doesn't make for a healthy relationship! You can't be happy with someone else til you are happy with yourself.
2007-08-30 23:30:29 · answer #11 · answered by mygewy2001 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋