I am 17 years old, and I met a 22 year old. We are seeing each other tomorrow. Our personalities click as if we are twins! He is funny and so caring! I really like him!! He mentioned to me that he does not want to have sex because I am underage and he could get in a lot of trouble for that, I told him that I do not want sex until I am ready. THe only problem is that my parents don't believe it... so now I have to hide seeing him behind their backs...and this really hurts me...to lie to them. But this guy is just wonderful he truly is the definition of a man who respects women. What should I do?
Thank you so much for your help! <3
2007-08-30 16:24:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anna G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he gets caught having sex with you he could plead insanity. He could tell the judge he's "crazy about that stuff".
He's being wise to hold back and you should find a way to tell your parents. At least until you're 18.
2007-08-30 16:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel more than you know! I'm 20 and fell for a 39 year old! I had to hide seeing him from my parents too. Just ask yourself one thing: Do you see a future with him? If you answered yes, then I believe the relationship is definitely worth hiding from your parents. One day, when you are a little older, you can tell them and they might be a little upset at first, but I know they would be happy for you and the fact that you found the right guy. And I would absolutely say that he seems like a really good guy if he is holding off having sex with you because you are underage. That makes it look like he really cares for you and is not just trying to use you for sex. So do you see yourself with him? Be honest with yourself because you owe it to you. Good luck!
2007-08-30 23:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by raider chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first! Talk to your parent very seriously and explain that not trusting you is not going to make things better. They know better than you that if a kid wants to do something, it will happen whether they believe it or not; so if they want to believe you it will make things easier for you as well so that when you need them, you'll be able to talk to them.
as for the guy, everything sounds wonderful and make sure you always do as you feel like. I'm proud to see that there are girls like that, able to say things the way they are to a guy no matter how much they like him!
Don't try to hide things cause then you're going to have real trust issues with your folks.
Good luck and enjoy every single day.
2007-08-30 23:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by helena_m_p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are doing the right thing, if you really feel like he's the one for you, then go for it! If your parents ask where u r going when ur out with him, tell them u r out with a friend or two. because, maybe, you guys could be friends, only more passionate, until u are older. once you are almost an adult, you have to start making your own choices, so you can etablish independance from your parents, and are ready when you need to move out. So as long as he's really genuine, id go with him. best of luck to the both of you!!
2007-08-30 23:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by Wayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you certainly shouldn't have sex with him. But honestly, I think you ought to hold off with him at least until you're 18 or 19. Think of it this way: you're what, a senior in high school? Or a college freshman? And he's either out of college, in graduate school, or working. He's 5 years older than you. That's nearly 133% your age. That's a pretty substantial difference. If you were both another 5 years older, I wouldn't worry about it. But you're still young enough that there's a maturity factor to account for.
2007-08-30 23:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by Terras 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 17, and he's 22. well, i would be best if you wait for a year. i'm 21 and my boyfriend's 25. i know exactly how you feel, cause i'm in that state right now. i used to lie to my parents also, tell them when it's time. i told my parents about my boyfriend, after months and months of dating him. they were happy that i finally got a guy.
if you really want to go romantic with him, then wait till it's your 18th birthday, and maybe he'll surprise you with a little romance on the night of ure birthday. that's how my bf and i celebrated on my 21st b-day.
it's not that bad to wait.
getting to know each other better is better.
2007-08-30 23:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by wild4max 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me if you havent known him that long then your parents have every right to think that, but beacareful your parents could get him in a lot of trouble if they find out your secretly seeing him...
I wouldnt do it, you never know what he is capable of,
On the other hand, if you do see him and he turns out to be a wonderful guy, do not give in to temptation.
2007-08-30 23:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by rockgirlfury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just go to prove to your parents. he is old enough to face your parents at least. why not do a thing that involves all of them together.
I mean why not?! he can earn the respect of the Family. think about it. this will work. you wanna be honest with your parents right?
go out to dinner with the four of you, this is gonna happen someday especially when it comes for you to get married.
im not saying be bold. but show your parents the truth. let him know that.
it should work.
yes i have done it before and it was just like this. thru my experience i give to you.
take care and let me know if it goes well
2007-08-30 23:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by ethnhunt2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waite until you are 18 and ready for sure and I commend him for making that decision as well, as far as your parents are concerned you probably have no choice but to sneak around until you are 18,i hope that's not to far off.
Good Luck
PS- You might try talking to your parents (with him) and be honest with them about how you and he feels and maybe that will help with the trust factor.
2007-08-30 23:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by BILL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I would say go for seeing him.....parents cant stop u from loving ne one and they rly cant stop u from having sex....unless they like never let u outta ur room or sumthing but my god! anyway...just make sure u are ready when u do have sex....I was 16 when I lost my virginity and now Im 17 and wished I didnt so take what Ive learned and make a choice...or atleast I hope you will just take ur time!
Ive hoped Ive helped!
2007-08-30 23:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by fufu16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋