At work I've found out tonight through a customer that she has 'got it on' (her own words) with my male supervisor. I saw a naked photo of him on her phone. My supervisor is in a long relationship with a girl and she works with us too.
Should I keep stum or tell her? I've only worked there for 6 weeks so far.
Obviously, it would affect my job if I was to say anything about this to her...
I knew he was a rat. I am a good judge of people. It may not be worth me saying anything. It is none of my business. I hardly know the girl who will be hurt. however, now that I know this how do I have a giggle and joke with her... and then listen to her say great things about him.
That would make me feel guilty in a way.
Any ideas?
2007-08-30 16:16:32 · 22 answers · asked by Sebastian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
for the record I am a gay male so I am just looking out for her and I would do the same for anybody that I am friendly with.
thanks for all your answers... wooa.. really quick ones too!
2007-08-30 16:32:32 · update #1
pictures or some proof...
if it comes akward.she will think ur jelous and ull lose a freind.
2007-08-30 16:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there Sebastian, There is a saying that goes: 'The messenger always gets shot.' Be very careful! Your friend may not appreciate you being the bearer of bad news. At the moment, this is only hearsay...you definitely need to get some evidence. When a very dear friend of mine was being cheated on, I found out where her boyfriend was going to be going on a date with the other woman, and I turned up there with my friend so that she could see it with her own eyes. I simply feigned surprise, and was there to help her pick up the pieces. If you cannot manage to do the same, just be a good friend and be there for her, this is the best that you can do. I understand that you feel guilty, and it is an awful situation for you to be in; but you really must tread carefully here. I do not think that she would appreciate it if you were the 'whistleblower.' Maybe you could find out this customer's name, and leave your friend an anonymous note telling her to ask her boyfriend about this person, and see what his reaction would be....this would plant a seed of doubt and hopefully get your friend to realise on her own merits what a rat her boyfriend really is.
Let me know how you and your friend get on honey!
2007-08-31 00:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, at the moment I'd sit back and watch the situation, if you become good friends and she confides in you about her relationship then maybe she could give you an opening but if you say something now it could backfire, in my experience people who have a love rat as a partner know in their own hearts and choose to deny it. You also have to look at how confident this guy is, I mean to do it with a customer and his g.friend works at the same place!!! He has no fear for a reason. Its nice though that you do care and when it crashes for her you can be there for her, if she finds out that you knew this, remember that this is his fault, he cheated and you were being a friend.
2007-08-31 05:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by patlynn2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one! U shld stop judging others and get a life. Sorry, it sounds rude but it is the reality. Aren't u just jealousy or something?? How would u feel if people started meddling into your private affairs instead of minding their own business? How is this gonna benefit u? What if it isn't true? What if u tell her expecting them to break up and they dont, won't u feel guilty or something? I suggest u stop walking down this path as soon as u can because sooner or later u might want to crawl back! My opinion and experience
2007-08-31 02:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by Prince 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say nothing, You have only been in your job a short time and you know what the supervisor is getting up to, it will only be a matter of time till your new friend finds out, thats when she will really need you, a shoulder to cry on. Good Luck
2007-08-31 01:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by linda h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look your not that great of friends with this girl but if you want to do the right thing then tell her , on the other hand you don't know how old that picture of him on her cell phone is , so it might not matter. If you don't care about your job then tell her if you do then don't , and even if he cant fire you he could probably make it hard on you.
Do whats best for you.
2007-08-30 23:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by BILL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes down to it, it's none of your business...... let her find out for herself...the truth always comes out....
And if asked why you didn't spill the beans..... just say it was none of your business.....
How would you like a virtual stranger telling you your man is cheating on you? I know I wouldn't believe her or him....irrespective of whether it was true or not....
You can spit (not literally) when she talks about him.....she'll think you've been hurt in the past and are areally bitter man hater....
2007-08-31 04:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by missceekay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to find a way to tell her anonymously, for one your conscience will be clear, two it shouldn't effect your job. (maybe a text, or email)
Even if it only sews a seed of doubt into this girls mind about her bloke. She will at least be prepared in some way for when she discovers the real him.
Ask yourself, would you want to know if you were in her shoes? I know i would!!
I hope it all turns out ok in the end x
2007-08-31 03:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by sammie77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. She may not be happy having it pointed out to her. Since she is not a close friend of yours let her find out for herself. Telling her would probably cause you to lose your job and you have to look out for number 1. That's the way it works in this world. If there is one thing I have learned in life it's to not get personally involved in any way with people I work with. You can be casual friends but don't get too involved in their personal lives.
2007-08-30 23:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stand to lose your job by getting involved, it isn't ever a good idea to involve yourself in relationships like this...
Chances are, like even a close friend would, they will not believe you at first and so you will cause yourself problems for absolutely nothing...
Forget what you saw/heard and distance yourself from both people...
Unless of course you don't care about your job, in which case... Tell her then quit, but don't expect any references ..... :)
Good Luck
2007-08-30 23:23:46 · answer #10 · answered by CheyMarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, dear... that's a difficult situation. I think that what you heard is just that, something that you heard. You have no proof of it... why repeat something that you don't know is really true. In any case I would stay WAY out of the whole thing, do my job and keep my mouth shut.
2007-08-30 23:23:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋