These kids in my neighborhood just moved in. They are ages 4 and 5. Yesterday they came over to play but only played with my childrens toys not with my child. They also ended up throwing mud at my son while my son ran around the yard. Today the kids came back over and as soon as my son went out to play the girl, 5, started telling me some interesting things. She said her mom died and she didnt know what happened to her. She then said, quote" My friend Rob he was really mean he pretended to be Dino's friend and Dino believed him and Dino was brushing his teeth and Rob blew his brains out and Dino thought he was his friend; and that girl said she had to clean up brain matter of the mirror and I think that is nasty" So... I understand these kids really have it bad, because I found out their father is in jail, their mom was murdered and they dont know what happened, and apparently Dino was the mothers brother... but should I let my son play with them?
2007-08-30 16:11:08 · 12 answers · asked by lllll 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Talking to these kids caregivers are out of the question. I would be up for it but the grandmother is the caretaker and I use that term loosely. The kids are constantly running in the road etc etc. And yes, I verified that everything she said was true - their mother was a drug addict and was found in a ditch in the country. No one had even reported her missing after three weeks. I feel very bad for the children, which is why I dont want to just say that my son cant play with them - at least someone would be keeping an eye on them if they were playing in my yard.
2007-08-30 16:26:13 · update #1
I think you know the answer to that. I don't think it is wise to let your child play w/ those kids. It sounds like they will have more of a negative influence than a positive one.
2007-08-30 18:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by bo bunnis 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
who on earth are these kids staying with? this is more than a little scary and it's pretty morbid that a 5 yr old would be know about that. I realise they are just innocent kids- it's not their fault- and they need love, guidance and someone to nurture them. I would go on over to the house and introduce myself. Let them know that the kids are welcome to come play when it's convenient for you and your children. Don't worry about them playing with the toys and not your child- they probably don't have many toys and also are probably a little socially inept for their ages. I would supervise their play and let them know in a kind way what is and is not acceptable behavior at your house. It sounds like they could use a little help in that department. I wouldn't get in "too deep" emotionally, but I think I would let my child play with these poor kids who seem to have had an awful lot to deal with during their short lives. Good luck
2007-08-30 23:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by nanny411 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
GEEZ!! I would want to sit down with the children's caregivers and let them know where you are coming from and if they are prepared to deal with the trauma these kids have gone through. I can't say that I would be willing to let my children play unsupervised with these kids but as long as I was present and paying attention to what is being said and had permission to correct them when they act out or talk of things you feel are inappropriate for your children.
Maybe find out if they have enough toys for them too since they may be living with someone who hasn't/doesn't have the ability to provide toys for them.
2007-08-30 23:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by starfire978 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, wow, that is one of the saddest things that I think I have ever heard. I know where you are coming from wanting to protect your child, but it sounds like this little girl is trying to reach out to you. How involved are their caregivers? I think that you need to talk to the caregivers and make sure that it is alright for you to step in when they are behaving in a manner that is not appropriate. If you are given the ok on that then I would let them play with my son, but only when I was personally able to supervise. I know that you are thinking about your son and that is what you are supposed to do. But think about those poor little one's who don't have a mother to look after them. You and your family could be a shining example to them of what a normal loving family are supposed to be. You could be their only chance of ever seeing that.
2007-08-30 23:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by Biddy_Bunny 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh!! woah...that took my breath away!! i actually had an ordeal somewhat like that as a small girl. a few kids that didn't come from good homes...we gave them food,and talked to them and all ....not all the time though. same here.....don't get tooo close if anything, you know? if the kids seem 'really bad!" then try to get you and/or your kids out of the house alot....this way these kids will know"they're never home" and not want to be bothered? that's what i would do. until one day they get the counseling they need,they aren't suitable for your kids to be around,or mine,if i was you.... trust me kids learn at a young age.....don't teach your kids real bad stories and things if you can prevent it.....i would prevent it!!!
2007-08-31 21:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by momin02 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would most likely not want my kids playing them because i wouldn't want the kids telling my kids stuff like what the little girl told you however the do need friends its ashame that they have had to go through what they did i would call a support place and see what you could do to help them out however if you do decide to let them play with your kids then you should watch them very carefully try to treat them like your kids and try to teach them right from wrong and other things they need to know manners, etc.
2007-08-30 23:35:03 · answer #6 · answered by ivy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because they have had a horrible life doesn't mean they shouldn't have friends. Speak with the adult that is in charge of them. Watch their behaviors with your child. Kids are mean to one another...thats a fact. Supervise carefully!
2007-08-30 23:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by jen4491 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would not let my daughter play with them...... take control over your sons friends while you still have a chance. He does not need to go through that or be hearing stuff like that.
2007-08-30 23:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by undecided 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to the guardians of these kids and let them know what was on my mind and what i think of those kids. But I wouldn't want my kids playing with them.
2007-08-30 23:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by ♥TINK♥ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if all this is true you have to feel sorry for the kids. but if they are being mean to your kid you don't need them around teaching your son bad habits
2007-08-30 23:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kelli sue 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋