I am an African american male I go to Highschool and i just became a sophmore and im 15 there this one red head asian girl i like alot. i talk to her alot on aim and we have good conversations and sophmore year just started its been the 3rd day already i seen her but im to nervous to say hi and she said hi to me last freshmen year. My friends are friends with her aswell but i also have a fear of rejection and every girl i asked out since 7th had rejected me or were taken or liked sombody else.Some times im told im ugly but i think im avarage looking. I even posted a question on this site saying am i ugly most people said i was avarage looking. like im not hella hella hot but not ugly either. How do i ask this girl out im really scared of her rejecting me i also want to know her better so she wont reject me saying she hardly knows me.
2007-08-30 16:06:21 · 6 answers · asked by man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You answered your own question, but you haven't put it together yet.
Talking with her on AIM is a good start, and since you see her in school you can chat with her a little there too. Don't be nervous about talking with her because you already chat with her on AIM, so that's no big deal.
Next, just be friends. If you want to ask her out, ask her to a group thing first (like a party or the mall), so it's not a "date". That will give her the chance to see the kind of person you are outside of school and will make her more comfortable with you. And keep doing things like that (in a group), until you are comfortable enough to ask her out on a real date. But take your time and go slow. Just be friends.
And don't worry about rejection. It happens to everybody. Don't take it personally. And if she does say no, then wait a week and ask her out again.
You'll never know what can happen if you let your fear stop you from trying. So just go for it! Good luck!
2007-08-31 06:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Frinn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking to her on AIM. But make an effort to go and say hi in person as well. Develop a friendship with her .
If you get that vibe from her then ask her out maybe as part of a group so there isnt any pressure on you both and your friends can help smooth over any awkward moments.
As for Rejection that happens to everyone. Dont be afraid of it. The more no s you get the closer you are to a yes.
2007-08-31 06:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by Te 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you get over your fear of rejection, DON'T!!! You did so good in 7th grade buddy!!! But here you are, and you let them hurt that ego of yours, DON'T DO THAT! Let go of them, get back that ********* you had, only this time, try some different approaches, maybe spend sometime working on you, you know!? But thats the problem to with school, theres other FACTORS, as far as the social dynamics and struture go theres no telling whats really holding you or them back..... but really just get over that fear man, we all get dissed, we all get pushed to the side, but I garuentee you, at the very least, they don't forget you. And thats really the best we can ask for, just contiune being you, and get back on the horse man!!! SHE'S A RED HEAD FOR CHRIST SAKE!! ITs worth one more rejection!;-) Besides agian its school, when you get out of there or go to colleage, those skills well definetely pay off, so get them back, and let go of that pain! In my book your a pimp! Well you were till this year.... So get back on it pimp!!!
2007-08-31 07:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't put the thought of rejection out there, what you put out is what comes right back. And i think you have a chance yes. But talk to her more and get to know her more better.
2007-09-07 15:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by peaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to show confidence and forget about the past rejections.
2007-09-07 15:49:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno
2007-09-07 15:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by mischa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋