How do you "embrace" an offense? Do you?

Question

think that "being offended" is a valid emotion?

Or do you stop and ask yourself "Why am I so bothered by this?"

And How do you handle "offense"?

Jack hasn't done anything at all!

It's just a theme I put together....

heehee - Jack - WHY do you feel guilty?? LOL

Dear "no name" - thank you for the update dear.
I am Canadian. and Dictionary.com uses both spellings for the same definitions. :)

Answer 1

Normally,we emotionally respond to an offense by either internal or external,anger,hurt and or fear.They are valid emotions,wheather or not the offensive party was justified in the offense. How we deal with an offense,is the key and is determined by our convictions and character. Most often,wrong thinking is the root cause of all negative emotions and can be reversed by changing our thinking.

You are right in your question:"WHY, am I so bothered by this"?

Good question,(((Rammie))) (((SmileyGeorge)))

(((Wayne,Kerilyn Abdul,Jack and anyone else I know))))

Answer 2

I think that being offended is a valid emotion, sure. It's not healthy if one carries it around for a while, but, it helps us to understand more about ourselves. If I were never offended, I'd be worried I was a bit like a doormat, unconcerned about how I was treated by others.

I do think the question ,"Why am I so bothered by this?" is a good one to ask. Otherwise, we run the risk at being constantly offended every minute of every day.

Answer 3

It only has to be an offense if the person wants to take it that way. On this site it seems foolish to become offended over anything said. To deny one person their right to speak their thoughts on a matter that requires opinion leaves everyone walking on egg shells. If someone becomes offended by what ( I ) say it is ("their") job to work it out with me and me alone. This is how respect and friendships are formed beyond surface. If "I" am offended by someones remarks it is my job to know why it causes me discomfort. Sometimes this is revealed in discussing the matter with the person and sometimes its best left between me and God. Since it really is my problem to fix not the offenders. I only debate the issue with the person if I feel it will enlighten either of us. Otherwise I move on.

Answer 4

I try my best NOT to "embrace" an offense, even if the hurt caused by the offense is real and valid. Usually the way I handle it is to pray--I've found over the years that as I pray for another, I genuinely develop a Christlike love for that person-it's a work of the Spirit. And of course I try to figure out why I'm so bothered by an offense---as I've said many times before, I tend to over-analyze everything, much to my own detriment. lol
The only real way to get over any offense is to forgive, and seek forgiveness.

Answer 5

This question addresses two spheres of life...

PRIVATELY
If nothing else, being offended makes you aware that you are not numb. It forces you to realise that you have emotions invested in the offender.

Being offended makes me think.. "what are the emotions I feel for that person"?

If you were indifferent to the offence, then it simply means you are apathetic towards the offender.

PUBLICLY
Of course, there are other types of offence.. for example, public denigration of your person, your culture, your religious conviction, an associate or colleague or your belief system.

You may have no emotions for the offender but have vested emotions in public opinion. Being offended is a valid emotion and you ought react by attempting assess the validity of your own position and to right misconceptions.

Answer 6

Depends

Normally I send out the secodary to match the number of eligble receiver on the line of scrimmage but some time I throw the offense off with a nice cover two or 46 defense

Answer 7

Well, I am following your themed questions, and I am waiting for you to ask a question about "anger". ....

So that I can copy and paste an excerpt from one of my books.

Oh, what the heck ..... we are friends.

Love Hint #187 - Anger is a sudden hostility directed toward the person you blame for your pain. Most psychiatrists have (wrongfully) advised; "we have a right to be angry". As a result of heeding their advice, we have had an epidemic of depression, mental illnesses, and divorces.

Having a right to do something means it is described in the "if clause" of your contract with a person, government, or higher authority.

1. No personal contract has ever read, "If the first party does such and such; the second party has a right to "be angry"

2. In the "Bill of Rights" of our Constitution, no citizen has the right to "sudden hostility".

3. None of the covenants of the Bible nor any other religious documents gives anyone the right to "sudden hostility".

Conclusion: You have no right to be angry.

If your feelings are hurt: Avoid the person who hurt you.

If your loved one hurts your feelings: Forgive her in a gracious manner. It will be a good investment.

signed (UW) --

Answer 8

You have to arrest an offense. I went to a women's conference once and they offered a class " Taking offense is a sin". I took the class and found out that when you take offense into your heart, you allow the devil to come in, it plants hatred , unforgiveness and a whole lot of unholy thoughts. And the action, that follows the thought, is usually only minutes away. Forgive quickly and move on , that has become my motto.

Answer 9

I react first. I really do not like being disrespected. Really.

Then I think about why I am so annoyed, realizing that if someone offended me, it is because I welcomed their judgment. I welcomed their judgment ONLY because it resonated with some part of my essence. So their judgment hit home. I then need to take a look and see what I need to do to clear that part of me that I obviously do not like.

(((Rammie))) -- you are single-handedly destroying poor Jack!!!

Answer 10

Now that I have actually read all your questions condemnation is setting in. I need to do some real self examination on my emotions and get help myself.

Guilty, Guilty, Guilty on all three accounts.