my dad??????????

Question

hey every-one i just need some advice. My step - dad who is pretty much my real dad passed away too months ago..i am having so many problems. when my brother and uncle died i was able to let go after about a month and accept it...i still think of them a lot. with my dad he has been gone for about 2 months and everything reminds me of him. i see someriding there bike i think of him smoking i think of him they dont even have to be doing anything and i look at someone and i think of him. every where i go everything reminds me of him. He's the only thing or person on my mind. I ve been trying so hard just to let go and move on but i cant do it. I pretend that i am fine and just act normal but inside i am crying i just wanna lock myself in a room and cry. but i cant i have a son to take off...please help what can i do to help me move on?

Answer 1

I'm so sorry for your loss. It takes a while to get over this, and don't be too hard on yourself. My sons have a step dad, and he's only been in their lives for a little over a year, but it's really the only dad they have ever had. A dad is an important part and a very important roll in someones life. I never was close to my dad, and i know the impact of not having a father around. Be there for your son, even though this is a difficult time. But try to research how to get over a loss, and remember to give it a lot of time.

Here is a really great book that may help. God Bless

Answer 2

Nothing will make the pain go away quickly. My mom passed when my son was just six month old. Everything my son did made me think of my mom. Whenever he did something funny or amazing I would pick up the phone and start dialing it, only to hang up and start to feel terrible. Eventually I worked through it. I remembered the things I loved about her, and try to pass them on to my kids. I still think of her all the time, but I can handle it now, and the memories are of good things, not loss.

Everyone handles death differently. What works for you might be different than what worked for somebody else. Nobody knows what you are going through but you. You can take the best things you learned from you father and use them as a guide to raising your son. You will pull through, it is a process. You have to go through it. Take care and don't be afraid to talk about it with others who knew you dad.

Answer 3

It will get easier as time goes on. It takes time, and even yrs later there will be things that will bring up memories. My Dad Passed in '76, I was 13. I still think of him often. It doesn't hurt anymore, It makes me feel good to remember him.
Good Luck And I hope the best for your pain to ease.

Answer 4

No one expects you to be over the loss of a beloved parent in two months. My Dad died four years ago and I can still be brought to tears at times. My mother is gone 13 years and I still miss her.
Use your memories of him and what he would have wanted you to help you work toward his best wishes for you.

Answer 5

Be like your father was to your son and tell your son all about his grandfather as he grows up. I don't think you could honor your father and cherish your memories in any other way. And put your son to bed, lock yourself in a room and cry. It's normal and perfectly O.K.. You need to take care of yourself in order to take care of your son.

Answer 6

so sorry to hear that you need a little time to yourself away from everyone even if its late at night take his picture and talk to him your feelings and how you are going to miss him this will make you cry you cry till you can't cry anymore you can't hold this in you will feel better its alright be sad but every day you will get better you will never forget give yourself time i no people around you will understand but you got to cry don't hold it in let no one be around you this is the time for you and your fother ok god bless

Answer 7

your berevment is still fresh give yourself time
you will never forget your father and rightfully so but in time you will be able to restrain emotions and lead a life for yourself
it has been 23 years since i lost my dad and i still miss him
but have to restrain myself
time is the best healer give yourself some

Answer 8

it takes time to get over someone passing, think of all the good memories, if it doesnt get better try seeing a councelor about it....it will get better in time

Answer 9

Talk with friends and family. You can try and talk to a professional because it sounds like you are depressed.

Answer 10

make your self more busy...more time with your baby or even plan some vacation out of town or country...and pray alot and everything will be alright.goodluck!