When getting introduced, or maybe in the course of conversation with someone I know for example, if I learn that they know "Smith" who I also know, if it appropriate for me to ask "So, how do you know Smith?"
2007-08-30 15:50:39 · 6 answers · asked by Michael C 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It is entirely appropriate, and establishing these kind of connections is also a great business networking tool.
You could be a little less direct by saying something along the lines of "I believe you know my colleague (or whatever), Smith?" and then give them time to say yes or no. Usually, they will give the information without being asked, such as "Oh yes, we play tennis together" or "Yes, I do, we worked together at X company".
These type of connections are very useful, because they tell you that there is someone you know who can give you more information about the person, therefore the person is more likely to be honest and open.
Also, if the person shared some common experience ~ such as working for a difficult boss or in a tough situation, it can create an esteem for the other person ~ this type thing can help you judge the new acquaintance's charcater.
If the person does not volunteer the information, you could always say something like "He certainly gets around! I worked with him in X, were you part of the team there?"
If the answers become evasive or hesitant, you could decide the person either does not like Smith, or has their own reasons for saying nothing. In that case, you may decide to be a little more reticent yourself until you know what is going on ...
Best wishes :-)
2007-08-30 16:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by thing55000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the kind of person who has the motto "when in doubt- check it out". It isn't rude @ all. Just politely, with good eye contact, ask this question. Good luck- Take Care!
2007-08-30 17:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine as long as it seems like part of the conversation and not an interrogation.
2007-08-30 15:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by jewel_mayhew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.
It's usually best to do it on the first meeting of the individual as social thing.
Otherwise wait and inquire privately to whomever you introduced you in the first place.
2007-08-30 15:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by darcyaf1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you just say: "If you don't mind me asking. ......" Those few words, give them an out to say that they really don't want to talk about it. Or that it's really personal. :)
2007-08-30 16:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by LadyLynn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure that is fine.
2007-08-30 15:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋