I have yet to achieve an orgasm. I am 24 and have been sexually active since about 16. I am in a relationship now, but it is hard to even begin to think about an orgasm because my boyfriend has become increasingly selfish and has given up on the idea that I am even able to ***.
Are there any exercises that I can practice with my partner that can help me to orgasm?
How can I get my boyfriend to be more interested in pleasing me, and be less LAZY in bed? Lately his attitude is, well she can't *** so why try?
He doesn't even try guys! What can I do??? I love him, but I am feeling unsatisfied sexually. Please help me by telling me how to become more fulfilled sexually with my man.
2007-08-30 15:32:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Buy some toys for him to use on you. Or see an gyn and see if he can give you some estrogen or some other female additive to soup you up.
2007-08-30 15:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by psycho magnet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all ,age has nothing to do with orgasm. What you have described is the difference between making love and having sex. It would appear that so far, your boyfriend only wants to have sex with you.Without been too sexually graphic, the difference is that when you make love ,both partners desire is important and must be taken into consideration.When you have sex, only one persons needs is taken care of and satisfied.Sit your boyfriend down, tell him the difference like I have explained it,tell him how he can please you more and ask him how you can do the same for him.Take all the time you need to pleasure each other; you are not in a race or been timed.Use your imagination and also talk to discover things about each other you never knew.Should you need more help ,let me know how I can privately and discreetly give you some suggestions you and your man can try.In the interim, I wish you the best and hope that very soon , you will be singing a different and happier tune from sexual fulfillment.
2007-08-30 22:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has to stop and help you, many woman have a hard time, and can take quite awhile , some men, get bored and give up. It is very important that you clitoris be stimulated by his fingers, i find slow and gentle, helps, then if you need more he can go a llittle faster, but he needs to take time, also kissing your breast at the same time helps. It is also very helpful, if you can lay on top, not sit but lay so that while you are rubbing his penis is rubbing on your cllitoris, again slowlly at first, and then speed up. I cannot have an orgasm, untlless i am on top, i think it helps us to be able to press in against him, as far as we need., and we can control the speed more. Tell him he needs to really take his time, havea night that is just all about you. Dont let him be lazy, when he gets it down pat he will be glad, he took the time to help you have an orgasm, it is the best feeling you can really have, do not every fake it, or you are just hurting yourself, as the man will think you are satisfied, and youre really just laying there frustrated. Give it a try., But remember slow and easy.
2007-08-30 22:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by disphoto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being on top. This way YOU control the motion and can get yourself off. Might try to relax too. Don't rush it. Go S L O W It sounds like you are trying too much. Foreplay is a biggie too. Roll around naked for an hour or so. By the time you actually get to the sex part you will be screaming! Enjoy!!
2007-08-30 22:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have found in my experience, that climaxing has a lot to do with your emotions as well as the act. If you are frustrated with your man, that frustration carries into your intimate meetings making it harder to become fully involved in the act and harder to climax. Often, it takes women so much longer than a guy to climax, so we often go without.
Somethings that might help:
Discussing your concerns with your man, if you feel more understood you will likely feel more connected to him, which makes reaching the big O that much easier.
Long foreplay-the longer you hold off on the actual deed the more turned on you get, usually making climax easier.
Learn what feels good to you. Experiment, different positions, fast pace, slow pace, whatever feels good to you.
You set the pace. If you are on top, you don't have to stop until you want to.
Above all, enjoy yourself, fully take in everything about your man, how your bodies move together, how his skin feels. Fully immerse yourselves in the act and enjoy each other.
Good luck!
2007-08-30 22:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by JustSarah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you get married and then you can be more at ease and comfortable and secure and familiar and not worried about impressing and have sex because you love someone so much that is the only way you can express it and the closest you can get to them. Then it will happen. Because no one is worried about preformance! It is beautiful!!!
2007-08-30 22:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by shello 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may need to try self gratification before becoming intimate with your husband.
2007-08-30 22:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by tx_mstry_lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you have worn it out. maybe the mystique is gone. Try stopping and waiting for someone who would honor you and your body and not just get a nut off ya.
2007-08-30 22:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by kyle g 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Find an unselfish lover
2007-08-30 22:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by fyrefly_xyz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell him! talk to him! if you're not comfortable enough to tell him your problems or talk them out, you're not comfortable enough to be sexually satisfied.
2007-08-30 22:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋