my mother is saying she simply has "given up on me" and that i should move out if i please, and i said "where do i move to?" and she replies "well your the one who was so smart to come up with that idea then you can figure it out yourself."
so i need to know where i can go if there is in fact anywhere i can go to.
i know this all probably sounds like some teenager's rant but i assure you it's not.
2007-08-30 15:17:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wish you could stay home until you finish school, however if that is impossible then you would have to go to Social Services and if they take you on as a client you would live in foster homes.
2007-08-30 15:27:53 · answer #1 · answered by ginny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, perhaps your Mum and yourself could get some counselling....its worked for other people. Parenting is hard work...it gets you down.....maybe she needs some TLC??
Thats just a guess....if this isnt the answer, try a womens shelter in your area - (even if you are a young man)...I guess you will find that in the phone book, or through domestic violence organisations? There are people who can help...perhaps fostering is the answer.
Its a huge step to being out in the world, these days an education is a very handy thing to have...so stay at school..(the only free education you will ever get)..study hard and think carefully about where you want to be in five years, 10 years etc.
My suggestion...and I was in the same boat once....is this..
Whatever is wrong between you and mum, it is possible it can be helped...try that first....take care...think carefully & give Love.
2007-08-30 22:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by stacey o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the circumstances of your home life, but I do feel for you. If your mother is abusive, or an addict, or something along those lines, I would definitly go to Social Services. BUT if she's not, and it's a temporary thing, try looking at your behavior and see if there is anything you can do to improve the situation. IF you have to leave I wish you the best of luck!!!
God Bless!! :)
2007-08-30 22:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Cassandra K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would ur mom give up on u? do u get in trouble and not listen or fallow the rules??? u could move in with friends, relatives, or call social services and get placed in a boys home or foster home. some parents say stuff like that to their kids to make them see how good they have it at home and make them realize that they need to fallow rules and all.
2007-08-30 22:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by starlight1blonde87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only concern i have for you is that money is not easy to come up with as a 15 year old. Even though you may have a job, it usually is not enough to support yourself. Don't be to quick to leave, its even harder to try and go back.
Good luck!
2007-08-30 22:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by reb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem..
i havent even told my parents that i want to move out but they've "given up on me" and ASSUMED that i want to move out so everytime we argue they always tell me to find somewhere to stay.. and that its up to me where i go blah blah..
i think what they're doing is testing us.. i once packed my bags and got ready to leave when my dad stopped me and said i was being arrogant.. hah. your mum might not do that straight away.. but after a while she'll realise she misses you.. even though she wont show it, she will be missing you alot.. and she'll realise it was as much her fault as it was yours. you're 15 years old and you're still a kid! you're still under her care and if ANYTHING happened to you, its her responsibility.. you dont HAVE to be living under her roof for her to need to take care of you but you're simply her child.. isnt that responsibility enough??
dont leave =).. i'm 16 and i chose not to. ive gotten into screaming fits about not leaving because im going to stay and show my parents that im not useless.. i know that if i go i might be lucky enough for them to want me back, but in the unlucky case they dont.. i wont be able to prove to them whatever i can do.. everything i'll be doing is going to waste..
sure parents nag and expect this and that from us but they ARE our parents nonetheless.. parents are just grown up versions of us.. they're older and wiser for sure but sometimes they can be childish.. or immature.. put urselves in their feet.. imagine if you had a kid (and dont tell yourself you wont be treating them the same).. just imagine how you would want them to be and how you would react if they did something you didnt agree with.. frustrating huh?
no matter how much they arent acting it.. they're the ones that brought you here and they want something from you. they ALWAYS know whats best.. even if they show it in the worst possible way.. it hurts alot but dont let it bring you down. the hardest thing i did was when my mum was yelling at me to get out i gave her a hug.. and she started crying. its hard giving in to pride, but sometimes you need to show them a little gratitude and love just to let them know that they can still have hope in you...
dont leave.. stay with your mum.. shes growing older and she needs you. shes just being a little stubborn and venting out stress and anger.. probably popping out a few white hairs as well.. lol. dont lets that happen any more and just do little things to make her happy.. start small and everytime she asks you to leave.. just laugh it off or tell her shes being ridiculous..
but in the end.. the choice is up to you.. good luck =)
2007-08-30 22:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with a school counselor. This is not a new problem for them. They will have some resources for you and/or guidance
2007-08-30 22:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋