Im 13 and my dad & i always get into fights,
he yells at me so i do it back.
treat someone the way you want to be treated.
...
well he slaps my arms.
so i slap him back.
he yells at me for not doing extra credit homework when i have like ALL A's!
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abusive?
2007-08-30 15:12:38 · 8 answers · asked by Lolly Pop Lolly Pop Oh. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no
he's not abusing you
&& why don't you learn to respect your parents and don't well back
2007-08-30 15:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by yswimmer93 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitly not the best way to get through to your child, but it's not abusive at at all, or it SHOULDN'T be considered abuse. The fact that you're even ASKING this question is evidence that there are too many people pounding crap into childrens' brains these days, instead of concentrating on children that are being raped, sodimized, beaten and killed!
When I was a child I was wipped with a belt, a switch and a plain ol hand........abuse then? NO! IT WAS GOOD PARENTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is what is wrong with most children today, and it's not even their fault! *sigh*
No, it's not abuse! Respect your parents, even if you don't think you deserve it at first. THEY are YOUR parents. If you follow your own advice and "treat people how you want to be treated" you will see the benifits because your parents will notice a change.
No, it's not abuse!
2007-08-30 15:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by Cassandra K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes ...it's abuse...even from "YOU"!
"Honor thy father and thy mother"
Did you not know about this commandment?
If your're going to quote something ..get it right.."Treat others the way you want treated..means.....with love and respect." The way our Lord expects us to do. When he (your Dad) yells ...just listen..you may learn something vital. Eyes and ears open...mouth shut.........if "Dad" is in the wrong ..he will start to realize it faster and you may even hear him say "I'm sorry". Give him the maternal leadway that he is seeking.
You will understand ..when you become a parent.............God bless and I really hope you can mend your relationship with Dad.
2007-08-30 15:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by cecstar 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your father's actions do not seem to be abusive. Yours, on the other hand, seem to show disrespect for him.
You cannot change your Dad, but you can change your attitude towards him. Try NOT answering back and NOT hitting him when he does. Treat him with more respect despite what he does, then maybe he will change his attitude towards you.
2007-08-30 15:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by B L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show him your report car. Nowdays with powerschool he can check on your grades anytime he wants.
Tell him doing extra credit would be useless because you are an A student.
Go out for sports.
2007-08-30 15:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dad's get mad over things that don't seem like a big deal. My dad pushes me and grabs my jaw, but he is only doing it because he thinks its the appropriate way to handle things, and I know thats the case with your dad also.
2007-08-30 15:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need a counselor. This is going no where fast.
It will only escalate unless you guys get someone to help you learn how to communicate on a different level.
2007-08-30 15:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you get into fights in the first place? i wouldn't call this abusive. i'd call it time for a good heart to heart.
2007-08-30 15:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋