"I told you... I am so swamped this week. I've been working non-stop.
Like I said, you are always going back and fourth about whether we should see each other, or shouldn't, you want to, you don't, it's crazy.
I don't know what to think. I do think it's because you are young and still figuring things out...which is normal. But I have a real hard time dealing with that kind of behavior. I out grew it a long time ago. I'm old.... have had long relationships... and even been married once.
It's got me so concerned. I think we are a big mismatch. You need someone who is young like yourself and figuring things out, passionate just like you.
You are beautiful and sexy but just not in the same place I am right now. "
Please help me say the right thing. I really really like this guy and I am willing to change and be more mature about everything. I dont know how to respond. I really want to try and make things work if he is willing. Can anyone help? I really appreciateit
2007-08-30 14:54:46 · 6 answers · asked by confusedz1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Something to convince him and make him think twice??? I dont know.
2007-08-30 14:56:00 · update #1
From a mature women ,
honey the worst thing you can say to him is "I will change for you".
As a mature man he knows no one can change or should change for another person.
If you want him back , become a independent, self reliant, women ,walk away from him as he wants but , when ever you see him do not be pleading and pathetic making promises you can not keep , instead show him how you are happy with your self and are happy being your self ,
that is the kind of women he wants .
2007-08-30 15:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by MASTIFF MOM 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I realize that there is an age difference, and you have been my mentor in love as well as life, If you feel that we should not see each other, I will have to accept the wisdon of your experience and get on with my life, using the things that you have taught me to excell in my next relationship. While leaving you breaks off a piece of my heart, I will always cherish the time I have had with you, and the lessons I have learned, I could not have had a more compassionate teacher. I wish you well, and hope that when we do see each other, that you will not turn away from me, but embrace me as a love that might have been, and that you will be able to think of me fondly. I do not want to cause discord in your life, and if you feel that we are mismatched, and I need time to grow, I am willing to take that time. If you really want to end our relationship, help me to be strong enough to do it. If you love me, but cannot be a part of my life, leave me alone so that I can become strong enough to move on.
In other words, put it back on him,,,,,let him go,,,,,see if he comes back around,,,,if he does, you got him,,,if he doesn't, chalk it up to some important lessons learned and profit form your time together We have all been there, at one time or another,,,,,,life is a lesson....and you have to live it to learn it.
2007-08-30 19:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by granny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are willing to change and grow up. You would like to try to work things out if he is willing. You can't force him. People on here can't really help you. Not trying to be rude to anyone but your the only one who has fellings and we don't know how close you are. If you really want to stay with him tell him all your feelings you have and hopefully that will work.
Good luck !!
Hope I helped.
2007-08-30 15:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by Bridget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Missy, I think the best thing to do would be honest with him and tell him just what you told us. That you want to be more mature and are willing to make big changes in your life.......but remember don't just SAY those things, DO those things as well.
Hope this helped and I hope you have a long and meaningful relationship.
A star for you for being so honest!
nfd
2007-08-30 15:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by fishineasy™ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well u can tell u do really love him and you would change just 4 him and tell him ur not a mis match you guys just didnt find the right way to handle things yet if he is calling u passionate show him that and being not perfect is good and being not in the same place is also good b/c now u can show himthat u r going to try to do things right and its all your love for him good lukkk
2007-08-30 15:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by MAndyy : ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u are seriosly in love with this guy, u should tell him that you will change for him, and how much u care for him, from the looks of it, he still likes u, so go for it!
2007-08-30 15:01:22 · answer #6 · answered by sunnblossomgirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋