I have been with this guy for 4 almost 5 years.... he's been with me at the music ministry at church.. we've grown together.... all our plans for the future were set...... everything was going fine..... we were having minor problems........ we were just laughing together that day... saturday........ then on sunday..... he did not arrive at church service..... i played the instrument alone...... because he had a one night stand with a girl that saturday night.........
the hardest part is.......... if our relationship was a mess he could have all the reason......... but we were great............
I need prayers...... please..................
2007-08-30 13:48:02 · 15 answers · asked by terra 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I will tell you what I tell my kids:
You have to trust people. You have to forgive people. You have to keep people that you can't trust at arms length until you can trust them again. You have to stay totally away from people who are escalating things out of control.
You have my prayers.
2007-08-30 13:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
One could 'jump' in' and say, he's not a real committed Christian. But we also have to look at the broader scene here.
We have to forgive, but, I would take it slowly from now on, and maybe , if he still feels the same, go to some counselling. Perhaps, even end the relationship, for a while (I know it's going to hurt, but you have already being hurt by someone you trusted and love). Put the relationship on 'hold', don't see him for some time. Try not to hold any bitterness in your heart toward him. Only God has the right to judge him. Maybe go to another church for a while.
Questions to be asked? Is he really sorry for what he did to you? Is he really sorry for what he did to God. You know, after I became a Christian and went to Bible School, one of our lecturers said to us, "he woke up to the fact that before he became a Christian, he realised , whatever he did in the past, God was there watching, and hoping that he would change" That really woke me up. Of course God is a"all knowing" so it makes sense.
But, I'm sure all the Christians out there will pray for for you. That's what we are there for.
2007-08-30 21:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
May God enlighten you on the truth of the matter.
May you be given the courage to take whatever the next step is necessary to stay together or part ways.
May you wrapped up in the love of your saviour who will guide you to the joy and love you deserve.
May the church community lend their support in this difficult time.
I personally am not of your faith so I'll use a quotation I heard as a child as a blessing.
"Good night and may your God go with you." - The late Irish comedian, Dave Allen.
God Bless, Xenah.
2007-08-30 20:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Terra, I will pray that Jesus heal your heart and that you don't become bitter. Forgive him and move on. You do not deserve to be treated that way. You are a child of God and deserve the best. He has problems that will take awhile to work through. He was not committed to you either, otherwise he would not have done that to you. I know that you feel so hurt. It will be difficult to let go and you will need Jesus to help you get through. Just keep trusting in Him and not your feelings.
2007-08-30 21:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for you. I remember how much it hurt when a guy I loved cheated on me. You can find comfort in knowing two things: 1) time heals all wounds, and 2) Most importantly, Christ is there for you, all you have to do is open your heart and pour out your grief to Him and He will heal you.
Best wishes and God bless.
2007-08-30 21:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by ChildofGod 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do not need prayers, he do. Don't let his indiscretions control you. What did you learn in church? God is a jealous God, he don't won't no man before him. Pray for him and pray that God send you someone that is mature, respectful, and who actually loves you.
2007-08-30 20:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by ava 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi, Terra.
I will pray for you as soon as I finish this.
"Turn your eyes upon Jesus
Look full in His wonderful face
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim
In the light of His glory and grace"
Now is the time to turn to Him as never before.
god bless
2007-08-30 20:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by happy pilgrim 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No you need to figure out whats wrong with your relationship. What is praying going to fix? Nothing. He cheated on you. Leave him. Find a new guy. That's all there is too it. He will sleep with other women no matter what you do or say. His values don't meet yours and you need to move on.
2007-08-30 20:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
As many... who Profess.... to Know Christ..... " BY THEIR FRUITS.... YOU.... WILL....KNOW... THEM ! "
Give up.... as this " BOY "..... Cannot be TRUSTED...... NOR... Should... he... BE !
Cut the.... EMOTIONAL.... and.... Social.... TIES.... and BE Free ... In Christ!
(Proverbs 6:26-to-29) For by means of a harlot
a man comes to a piece of bread;
and another man's wife
will hunt for the precious life.
(Pro 6:27) Can a man take fire in his bosom,
and his clothes not be burned?
(Pro 6:28) Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned?
(Pro 6:29) So is he who goes in to his neighbor's wife;
whoever touches her shall not be innocent.
Thanks, Roger R.
2007-08-30 21:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i will pray for you .. be strong .. he ruined it .. let it go and move on there will be somthing better ..
2007-08-30 20:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋