i HAVE A SON WHO MAY BE NARCISSISS HE BLAMES ME FOR EVERYTHING. MAKES ME FEE LIKE I AM THE ON WHO HAS PROBLEMS. i LOVE HIM DEARLY BUT HE NEEDS HELP. i PUT A RESTRAINING ORDER ON HIM TO PROTECT MY LIFE. WHAT SHOULD I DO NOW.
2007-08-30 13:34:39 · 3 answers · asked by silvrhawk 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My son will be 21 this Oct. I have tried and tried everything with him. I have PTSD from the military and I guess I just have to help my self since he won't accept any help. I love him very much.
2007-09-01 16:19:24 · update #1
hey may be narcissistic to a degree, but he sounds more sociopathic than anything and that's just a loose assessment from a non-professional based on the little info given. sometimes parents can't help the way they're children end up. he's an adult and at some point in his life he'll have to address his own issues or someone else will do it for him (i.e. law enforcement). you can only do so much and i think if you pressure him on it won't help the situation. i'm sure it's hearbreaking to even think about giving up on him, but he is 21 so legally you can't really intervene. if he doesn't want help, you can't force him. also, we're only hearing your side of the story. sometimes it really is the parents that are the enablers for bad behavior in their children.
2007-09-07 02:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't state how old your son was but I assume he is fully grown as you fear him enough to get a restraining order for him. Narcissism is self love and I'm not going to say anything more about that other than to say if you don't love yourself you can't possibly love others. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a severe form of narcissism. You can look it up by typing "narcissism" and/or "narcissistic Personality Disorder" into Yahoo web search. A number of links comes up in both cases. Wikipedia has good summaries.
Diagnosis of another person by a non-professional is dangerous. It is usually wrong. But violent behavior is easy to diagnose and it too is wrong. You don't have to be NPD to be violent. If your son is grown and living apart from you I suggest just keeping your distance and keeping your mouth shut for awhile until he has a chance to realize you mean business about whatever disagreement you and him are in. When he calms down and you calm down and can talk without arguing seek rapprochement over the "bone of contention."
Hope this helps, good luck, good health, peace and love!
2007-08-30 19:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mad Mac 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your son lives with you...tell him he must seek the advise of a psychiatrist as a condition to still live with you. Even if he doesn't live with you, your son still needs to be properly diagnosed and treated. If your son still continues to blame you for his problems then I would cut off all communication with him. It's time to start taking care of yourself for once. Good luck.
2007-09-06 18:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by theonlyanswer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋