Like when you go out for dinners, bars, etc, do you pay for your friend if they are poor? Or do you feel that you are not responsible for them? I am tired of feeling obligated to pay for my friend's dinners and stuff. I don't feel that I have to. Once in awhile is okay, but if I do it too often then my friend might expect it every time!
2007-08-30 13:15:06 · 20 answers · asked by Surf Dude 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
My friend is poor but her mother pays her rent, her car insurance, and other misc stuff.
2007-08-30 14:49:26 · update #1
She is not poor, she is lazy. Invite her when you are prepared to pay, but not all the time- but that's just me.
I used to pay for my friends who were poor, and only invited them when I knew I had to pay- several were students and I was already working. When one graduated and got a real job, he reciprocated with an insanely expensive night out- not a user. Only you can determine whether she's just a mooch or not.
2007-08-30 23:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like others have mentioned, it dependson the situation. If you invite them as guest then I think you should pay. IF you know your friends dont have money dont ask them out to eat or anything that they dont have money for, unless your willing to pay. Either way remember they are friends and there is nothing wrong with paying for food or a movie. They might be going through a hard time, so be there for them.
2007-08-30 14:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'Once in awhile is okay, but if I do it too often then my friend might expect it every time!'
So if you're prepared to pay once in a while - but not too often - how is your friend supposed to know when the cut-off point is? Have you made the ground rules clear? You can't expect your friend to be a mind-reader - and if you do it gives you the luxury of being able to be resentful whenever you feel like it. Ultimately this is quite patronising of you.
2007-08-30 13:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by chameleon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the poor friend of the group, so let me give you my perspective. No I don't want you to pay for me, but why do you rich friends always want to go to the nice, trendy expensive places? I want to hang out with you guys, but would it hurt to go somewhere every once in a while where my dinner was less than $25. Sheesh! I'm going into debt trying to keep up with you guys!
2007-08-30 15:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you ask your friend to go with you when you know they don't have any money, then you need to tell them that they have to pay their own way. If you enjoy their company and can afford it what's the big deal...what are friends for but to support you and help you through the bad times. everyone needs a social life and if your friend can't afford it, they would just sit home by themselves doing ?? If this is such a burden to you then maybe you should find a rich friend to hang out with
2007-08-30 13:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by Deb B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do. I have a couple of friends who are in very tight financial situations and I'm not up to cooking. The deal is they drive and I treat. It works out well. If your friend has turned into a moocher and never returns a favor, find a new friend. Otherwise be happy that you have the resources to pay.
2007-08-30 13:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by Beach Saint 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they are a moucher drop them like a bad habit. I know a girl that did this to my girlfriend and it was a sickening sight. They should atleast attempt or offer portion of the bill. I make more than some of my friends and I always treat them out because I know they would do the same. You have to ask yourself would they do the same for you? And how good of a friend are you guys?
2007-08-30 13:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by blacke90 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not obligated to pay for anybody----rich or poor.
A leach will expect you to do all the paying, but a poor person will have too much pride to accept---every time.
2007-08-30 13:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by Lighthouse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I have money and my friends don't, I will pay for their food everytime. I used to be poor and I know how awful it feels. It is not an obligation but a privelege. I love sharing my wealth with my friends.
2007-08-30 13:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by Chief15534 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't take them out where you feel you have to pay their way. like going to bars ext. They might be taking advantage of ya. Every once in a while is ok but not all the time.
2007-08-30 13:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by soft heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋