how do you get over the pain of losing a loved one?

Question

my grandpa passed away a week ago. he was 81, and had Alzheimer's (or however you spell it). anyways, ive never lost anyone in my family before, so as you can imagine, i was crrying hysterically this whole week. i cant get over the shock and disbelief that im never going to see him again. how did you get through the tough time when you lost a loved one?
im 13, and just writing this was painful... any stories of getting through the time after they passed on would be appreicated.
thanks
--Ellz.

Answer 1

Time is the only healer in situations like this. I'm very sorry for your loss and it has hit you particularly hard as it is your first. Unfortunately for us all as we grow older we end up attending more and more funerals. All you can do is hold on to those happy memories and never forget your love you had. He will always be with you inside your heart and mind then. You have my sincere condolences

Answer 2

I am so sorry to hear about your grandpa, i lost my grandma to alziemers at age 83 a few years back so i know how painful you feel right now, time is the only thing that got me through grieving it just took time, the more time that passed the easier it got, i know its hard to believe that now cause u just lost him, i felt the same way , i thought i would never be happy again, and never get over the shock, etc. You will be suprised though as time passes, you will get over the shock and stuff. You will always miss him and be sad that he is not here with you, but you can deal with it better as time passes and remember he is in a better place, and you will see him again one day. I am so sorry sweetie you had to go through this at a young age, i was in my early 20's when my grandma passed. I wish you the best of luck hun, and i promise, it will get better, hang in there and enjoy life, im sure thats what grandpa wants for you!

Answer 3

First of all I am very sorry for you loss. I lost my mother 2 years ago and would burst into tears while I was driving even at work. She was the only relative I have lost ever and she was my best friend. I still cry about her but not as often. I know she would not want me to be sad. She is in a better place & since I seen her suffer from leukemia I am glad she no longer has to suffer. Your grandfather would want you to be happy, so just live your life as if he is watching over you and always think of the good memories you shared. I dream of my mom sometimes and now I do not cry about it, I am just happy for the memories. Talk to your family about your feeling, they will enjoy talking about him and you can all laugh about the good times. Good Bless you & your family.

Answer 4

Losing a loved one is never easy, you just have to remember all the happy times you've had with them. I've lost two of my grandparents, and it was extremely difficult. You said your grandpa had alzheimers? Thats a disease thats not easy to deal with, you just have to take comfort in the fact that he's in a better place now and won't have to suffer anymore. And I know this is kinda different, but when my dog died, me and my brother got out all these old pictures of our dog and made a scrapbook. That way, when we were feeling sad, we'd get out the scrapbook and be able to laugh at all the fun memories we had. I know it feels like you'll never feel better, and in a way you don't want to feel better because you feel guilty, like you're forgetting about your grandpa. But time really does help

Answer 5

First off, my condolences for your loss. It is never easy to lose a loved one. I know you will hear this from others, but time really does heal the wounds to your heart. Right now you are mourning the future and time lost without him. In time (a few years from now) you will rejoice in the past and the time that the two of you enjoyed together. You will be able to remember him with a smile rather than with tears.

When my mother died 10 years ago, I found that sleeping with one of her pillows helped me. The pillow had her scent on it and I found it very comforting. If you have something that belonged to your grandpa keep it close to you. It will remind you of him.

Answer 6

i dont think anyone "gets over it". i think its a way of accepting the fact that you have lost someone. its hard to do- there is no "cure" for it. the only thing that can help it is "time". you need to be with the people you care about and care about you. just know that you are loved and that everyone else is going through this with you. try to do things to keep you occupied- its hard to be alone and just keep thinking of it. try not to keep all these emotions inside. talk. talk about it with whoever you are comfortable about. grieve.

i have lost many people in my family.

when i was 4 my grandmother
when i was 12 my other grandmother
when i was 14 my DAD
when i was 18 (last year) both grandfathers

its very hard to deal with it at such a young age. i am sorry for you lost. take care of yourself!!

Answer 7

I'm sorry for your loss Sweetie. I lost both of my parents 4 years apart from each other. I know EXACTLY what you're going through. Just know that it's OK to cry and grieve. Let yourself feel the feelings - don't stifle them. Lean on friends and family and know that your Grandpa is looking down on you. Also very important - God loves you and wants you to trust in Him. God Bless.

Answer 8

Everyone copes differently to difficult situations like this. I think the best way for someone in your situation and someone your age is to just try and keep yourself and your mind busy with positive things. Don't sit around and think because trust me, it'll kill ya. What you should do is just spend as much time as possible with your family and friends and people you love. Time will make it hurt less and make it easier, it may not seem that way, but it will eventually hurt less.

I'm so sorry for your loss and I wish you and your family the absolute best. -Corbyn

Answer 9

It takes time for the grieving process to evolve. I lost both of my parents within a year apart. I don't think anyone ever completely gets over a loved one's death. But, it does hurt less and less with each passing year.

Answer 10

What helped me,( I was thirteen when my dad died) was to spend lots of time with my family and friends and talking together about our happy memories with him. My dad was real sick when he died so even though I missed him I was glad he wasn't sick anymore. Writing in a journal can help get your feelings out. You could also make a special scrap book or picture album, giving tribute to your memories of him.Sometimes it also feels great to do something nice for someone else that is hurting. It gets you mind off of your problems for a little while and helps you feel good about yourself. I also am comforted by my belief that he is in heaven and I will see him again someday.