so i randomly met this guy at college and he's really cool. we've been hanging out a lot since then but he keeps wanting to do stuff together. he sent me a message talking about how "i've got him crazy and it's only been 2 days." i told him that i'm not looking for a serious relationship for the time being but i do enjoy his company. so now he's always texting me asking to do stuff. i feel like he's rushing it...like it's cool to hang out sometimes but not everyday...just to keep things fresh. i don't think he'd start stalking me but all this hanging out is new to me. advice?
2007-08-30 12:20:01 · 6 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
like i told him that i was going to a basketball game tomorrow and he asked me what time it was. like i think he wants to go too.
:S idk, i judt don't want to et serious with anyone and i feel if we keep hanging out it'll give him the wrong idea.
2007-08-30 12:21:14 · update #1
If he can not listen when you tell him to slow down, then you need to tell him to stop. It is up to yourself how much he bothers you. Obviously he doesn't feel the same and is in the "bug you 'till you cave" mode. Don't tell him your plans and block him from texting you or deal with not putting a stop to it. Good luck
2007-08-30 12:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily a "stalker". Just a guy who seems very clingy in the early stages of a relationship.
It's best if you end it now by saying you just want to be friends with him, and that any furthur push in the relationship will not come anytime soon because you want to take things slowly. If he does not back off, then cut ties with him immediately.
You don't want someone who's constantly insisting that you spend all your time with him; this may cause problems in the future when we look for a serious relationship with someone else.
2007-08-30 19:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ray-Banned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is a little full on but stalking is staying when you are not wanted or invited --- if you dont want to see him so much let him know so far you have not done that so maybe you enjoy his company as well --- im sorry you can not say you dont want a "serious relationship" at some point because life just throws people at us and you sometimes cant help yourself ---- enjoy the time together and see what happens ---- have fun
2007-08-30 19:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'd like to take 'some time' to get to know him, and if he rushes it, then it could end up being over before it starts...like in a "too much of a good thing..." kind of tone...if he doesn't get it...thats bad news, dump him.
2007-08-30 19:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by J Powers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say yes when u want to..and no when you dont.. simple as that. if he persists tell him..what u told us. " i like doing things once in a while..but not every day. hope you can accept that..otherwise we have to stop seeing each other at all."
2007-08-30 19:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over yourself
2007-08-30 19:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋