for christians, why is it wrong (a sin) to have sex before getting married??? (details)?

Question

if you are going to say that i am hurting my spirit please answer why am i hurting it.
and "because god says so" is such a good answer as saying nothing.
since you claim to have a solid moral code i just want to know the reason behind the moral code, morals cannot be imposed, so everyone must know why somethin is inmoral and this reason is beyond: "because someone told me so".

rossonero you dont know so dont try to disguise it with "why you care?"

homelnad security i already asked and you already give no answer

i care because i am researching on moral codes

vaderswife so adam and eve had sex outside marriage???

suzi dear what is the connection between sex before marriage and unprotected sex??? do you think that people who have sex before marriage do that on dirty alleys???

Answer 1

If it doesn't matter to you that "god said so", then either you have no grasp at all of who God is, or you are already so wicked there is no sense trying to explain anything to you.

Answer 2

(Exodus 20:14) Because god created us, he completly has the right to say what is a sin and what isn't, what we should follow and shouldn't, like our human parents that give rules to their children. In this case, the 'because he said so' arguement, is surprisingly acceptable. Normally, your right, faith and because he said so arguements are often not liable, but not for something such as this. But, sence you are specifically asking for more than that,

The laws god gives us are infact for our own protection. and this one has many obvious ones such as:
1- STDs, by observing this law, we keep our body clean from sexually transmitted diseases, and infections. Some of which are possibly fatal, and alot of which will haunt us for the rest of our life. somethign i personally don't feel like risking.

2-Unwanted pregnancy. Theirs always a chance, and it happens all the time. Which could leave the women with the burden of being forced to decide an abortion, or having to take care of an unwanted child. Which are both predicments that are by far best left avoided.

3- Emotional/relationship problems. Alot of times after premarital sex, there are painful regrets, and relationship problems that follow, When done recklessly, and soemtimes even when not, it can easily brake up a relationship. And really, theirs no reason to put you or yoru partner in that problem, especially if you want to look forward to forging a solid relationship.

but thats just summing up some of the problems that can come from pre-marital sex. And why god feels its best avoided.

Answer 3

Originally, there was no marriage. A man and a woman would have sex, and that was it, they were bound for life. That was how God intended it to be.

Genesis 2:24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.

Sex is the act that brings two souls into union, as well as two bodies. Ignoring the effect that our bodies have on our personality and vice versa is a mistake, whether it's obesity, drugs and alcohol or multiple sex partners.

There are the health risks (stds, etc), too. Sex between two virgins is the only safe sex. Sex with a condom is merely safer sex, as 86 percent to 98 percent effective means that for 2 to 14 percent of people, they fail.

There's also the facet of a loving monagamous relationship being the ideal (although not the only) environment in which to raise a child. Which is the evolutionary explanation for the phenomenon of marriage.

Plus from personal experience, I've had many friends who didn't think there was a problem with sex outside of marriage, and several got pregnant in high school, almost all of them were devastated emotionally when the relationship ended, and one of them is dealing with cervical cancer.

I know this is a long read, but you asked for a reasoned explanation. There's a lot more to be said on the subject, but this answer's long enough.

Answer 4

Actually, "because someone tells you so" is the answer. You probably don't like it, but that doesn't make it less true. I can try to give you reasons though, since you want them.

Basically, it's because sex results in babies. I know, you can use birth control, but as everyone knows, BC is not 100% effective. Therefore, sexual intercourse could result in a baby at any time.

It was God's intention that children be conceived by a man and a woman, and raised by them. By getting yourself, or someone else, pregnant outside of marriage, you are being unfair to the child, because you are bringing him into a situation in which his parents may or may not stay together to raise him. You don't have the right to play games with someone else's life in that way.

Yes, your body is yours and your partner's is his or hers. But the body of the baby that results is neither yours nor your partner's to do with as you please.

If you think about the Christian idea of marriage: It's supposed to be a lifelong union with no escape clause. It's this way to make you think long and hard before entering into it. If you know you can easily get out of it, you will be a lot more careless or impulsive about going into it. But if you know you'll be stuck for life, you'll take a lot more care in CHOOSING THE PERSON WHO WILL BE THE OTHER PARENT OF YOUR CHILDREN. This will result in the best environment you can provide, for your children to grow up in.

Your other reply (besides BC) might be that, if you get pregnant, you can always abort. But you know the Christian answer to that, and besides, it's a whole other topic.

Answer 5

Before marriage there is no solid commitment between the man and woman, they could easily break up the relationship at any point. Breakups are really painful for both people involved but if you have had sex it will be even worse if you breakup. Also if you end up having children before marriage it can put a huge strain on the relationship, bringing up a baby which may lead to a breakup but if you are married then there is more commitment which means you wont pick up your bags and leave at the first trouble. God doesn't make these rules because he is no fun, he makes them because he doesn't want to see us get hurt, or see the child born out of wedlock watch his parents split up.

Answer 6

because once you start having sex, you generally dont' stop, or at least there is no reason to, and therefore no reason to stop sinning (based on belief). That's called a "sex life".

Also, if you can control your sexual tendancies you'd have more control over yourself, and so then any other sin is easy to give up.

So, since sex is, perhaps, the most intense desire, most people try to satisfy it as often as possible.

furthermore, sex (before marriage) is the only sin that is available for EVERYONE and is what EVERYONE enjoys doing, so they do it. Not EVERYONE is a murderer, or a liar, or a thief... but EVERYONE has sex (unless physically/mentally impossible to do so).

So once someone loses their virginity, they basically spend the rest of their lives either trying to get married or sinning.

I also, consider it as "God's test", whoever can resist having sex before marriage is truly a man of God.

Cause you'd have to be a man to deny yourself of any (and all) comfort or pleasure (in terms of affection, intimacy, love and care).

Answer 7

I've seen a lot of this question lately. The nutshell answer is as follows.. God created sex with a purpose. Any time you have sex outside of its intended use, you spit in the face of God and put your body and heart at an unnecessary risk. If that's what you want then fine, have at it. As for me...after 5 years of running myself into the ground and having 2 kids out of wedlock, being completely on my own...I started doing things God's way. Now I love my life, I have a great marriage to a wonderful Christian husband, and I understand now more than ever before why God said WAIT FOR MARRIAGE. Your brain can't understand it till you've seen his will for your life and how sweet it is.

Answer 8

I have noticed that most of the Biblical rules have to do with cleanliness.
Just look at all of the diseases passes around through unprotected sex.
Not to mention all of the children born out of wedlock.
Marriage is about the institution of the family-- (not sex, attraction, lust, or even being in love) --which traditionally consists of a mother, father and children.
In case you've never noticed--God is all about a strong family unit.

To answer your direct question to me---back in Bible times there was no such thing as a condom. Back then all sex was unprotected. Do you think disease didn't exist? It did. They just didn't know what it was or how they got it.

Answer 9

"Believe it or not, almost all Christian traditions, and even Jews, accept God the Father as the first "marriage celebrant". There were no other people on the earth to organize an official service with music and the Hokey Pokey at the reception. But, in reality, Adam and Eve had the coolest "wedding" of them all. Here’s why… God wed them through the creation of Eve – she is physically part of Adam and Adam is incomplete until she arrives. Adam then says, "At last, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh." They didn’t need a "ceremony" to ask God to unify them; He already did it for them through Eve’s creation. The rest of us have ceremonies, a sacrament, to experience the same type of unity given to Adam and Eve."

[...] "Man and woman came from one to be reminded that we were meant to be one (yes, biologically, I’m talking about sex and the total personal intimacy comes with it). It’s a powerful and cool thing that a man and woman’s body, heart, mind and soul can do - we are really meant to complete one another. The creation of Adam and Eve as one show us this reality."[...]
"Could you be "married in God’s eyes" or feel married without going through the sacrament or ceremony? I’ll answer that with another question. If your father was the only welder on Earth, and you needed two pieces of metal to be welded together, could they become unified if you never bring the pieces to him? You can stick them together with glue or duct tape and all them "merged", but it’s not anything like being welded together.
God can make two people one (none of us have the talent of pulling our partner out of our rib); He can "weld" us together. The public, sacred wedding ceremony is where this happens. It is the present-day version of Eden. The sacrament in the Church is what turns a man and woman into the "one flesh" reality in word and sacrament in the wedding bed makes them one flesh physically. Every act of sex after the consummation (the wedding night) is a renewal of this binding sacrament. It’s a beautiful package deal God intended for us all along. And, although many people in this world today don’t believe marriage or sex to be this powerful, lasting or important, as Catholics, we still do."

Answer 10

The reason is that sex is considered a sacred thing because you can create new life out of it. There fore it should only be for a husband and wife. Sex is also a symbol of one of the strongest types of love possible. You should only do it with someone you truly love, like in marriage.

Answer 11

Sex without a commitment is not as strong....when two have sex together it creates a bond (whether the person wants it to or not or even recognizes it.) This bond continues even after the the two no longer are together.....it becomes a part of other relationships...and affects views in other relationships....yes it may not be always negative...but in most of my counseling it does not have a strong negative position in future relationships...much as porn is having now...many try to deny it's affect but it does have a negative affect...not enough time nor space to go into much more here....