I usually watch my little sister until someone gets home from work when both parents are working. My stepdad is my little brother's football coach, so some nights I have to watch my sister during football season. This isn't the problem, because I know it helps my parents out a lot. Seeing as my mom is pretty much a stay at home one, I feel like my sister is her responsibility while she's home. She likes to leave my sister with me constantly to go do errands or whatever, which started to get really old. I don't want to feel like a 19 year old parent. She's not my kid, even though I love her to death. The other day my mom asked me to watch my sister while she went to do something and I told her it was starting to get old. She went off on me saying she would never help me with anything anymore including cosigning a loan I need for school. A couple days have passed and we still aren't speaking. I don't want to confront her and apologize because I'm not sorry at all. What should I do?
2007-08-30 11:47:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've already been in college for a year, and the point of the question isn't in regard to that. No I do not pay rent, and at the same time, I want to be able to hang out with my friends rather than be an on call babysitter. I have no social life anymore, and it's not fair. The kids aren't mine.
2007-08-30 12:27:52 · update #1
Do you pay rent or help out with bills? Do you have chores that you take care of? I mean, you're 19, an adult. If you aren't helping out in any other way, then I think you should at the very least babysit your sister. You're part of the family you should contribute to the family, as long as you are living in the family home, know what I mean? She may not be your kid, but she is your sister, part of being a big sister is looking after the little ones.
Despite that, it was a little immature for your mother to say she wouldn't help you with college, but really you don't need your mother to go to college, like someone else said.
2007-08-30 12:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Obscure Reference 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a job and a roommate and go to school. You can do it. Many people your age do. There are plenty of school loans where you do not need your parents help. Go to the school or on line to find them or get some help in that area. You are right to have stood up for yourself. My sister has done the same thing to one of my nieces until we told her it was wrong and not the child's responsibility to raise her sister.
2007-08-30 18:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a note from her saying she won't help you pay for school, then fill out a FAFSA. I suspect that getting her to write something down will be enough to start clearing the air, but if not, you'll qualify for financial aid. Also if you do the FAFSA, you can get a student loan without a cosigner. You don't have to pay them back until you graduate.
2007-08-30 18:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really too bad that you have to live at home while you are going to college. I am sure that your Mother sees nothing wrong with asking you to babysit. It really would be nice if you could help your Mother out, but you do need to be able to say no when you have homework or other obligations. If I were you, I would give my Mother a big hug and tell her that you really would like to help her out when you are not tied up with your College studies or activities.
2007-09-03 18:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom should know better..you dont have any children to keep so she should'nt push hers off on you...i dont blame you for standing up as long as you said it respectfuly you should apologize if you did it disrespectfully and tell her how you feel.besides you are going off to college in a little while right?
2007-08-30 18:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by shimmyshimmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground. Your mom can get glad the same way she got mad.
2007-08-30 19:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋