Okay.. Lately my girlfriend, katelyn, has been talking to this kid cody, shes been texting him, calling him, meeting him in the halls at school, and things like that, and we've been going out for 10 months or so.. i don't know what i should do, she says that she wants to hang out with him but i don't really want her to, and she broke up with me because i said that i don't really want her to hang out with him..
it's not that i dont trust her, but i dont trust him.
now shes being all mean to me and we've been fighting.. and i treat her good, i buy her things, i walk her to class, i just try my hardest to be a good boyfriend but i feel like i'm not doing a good enough job,
should i kinda "ignore" her and let her realize that im a good boyfriend, im not being self-centered, but i think im doing a good job, and i love her more than anything, with all of my heart i just dont know what to do..
2007-08-30 11:12:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you should dump her and just move on
2007-08-30 11:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't be asking questions like this online because some total idiot that has no idea what he's talking about might give you really dumb advice and since you're not seeing things clear rite now, you might actually follow it.
But sinced you asked the question, i'll answer. What you should have done was to hang out with her while she's with Cody, when you 2 were still together. That way, you can check if he's someone that might make a move on Katelyn. And once isn't enough. You should have hung out with them a occasionally to get to know him and let him get to know you (if he respects you, he will not make a move on Katelyn).
But since you're already at the point where you two broke up, you have to apologize to her. Don't ignore her because that will only make her feel like you don't care about what she thinks (like how she thought u couldn't trust her). Even if u think its not your fault, its the right thing to do. You're the guy anyways, you can't wait for her to step up. Hopefully Katelyn is smart enough to realize what she has and willing to give the relationship another chance. Good luck, and don't worry because your a good boyfriend and Katelyn will realize it. As for Cody, don't try to start any **** with him. I hope this helps.
2007-08-30 18:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jimmy Ng 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here are some steps that might "win" her back...
1. Just say you know what i'm tired of trying to make things work and you're not, i was always good to you and you know that. If you wanted sumthing else out of me you should of told me so...
2. Walk away and never talk to her again, but don't complete ignore her cuz that shows that your doing it on purpose... Like if you walk past her look at her (blank faced) if u give any emotional look then that shows your still connected to her...
3. I will probably keep saying this but DO NOT TALK TO HER UNTIL A MINIMUM OF 3 MONTHS HAS GONE BY, then if she talks to you after that don't show emotions (anger, happiness, sadness,etc.) to what she has said.
4. And this is a very important factor...DO NOT GET ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND WITHIN THE SAME MONTH OF YOU SAYING NUMBER 1. You can get a gf between 2 and 6 months after number 1.Anytime b4 or after shows ur still attached.
5.Treat that new girl better than you treated the last one, but don't let her get away...that's just proving ur ex's point.
6.Another very important factor. DO NOT SHOWBOAT UR NEW GF IN FRONT OF UR OLD ONE, THAT ALSO SHOWS UR STILL ATTACHED OR TRYING TO PROVE A POINT. Not showboating her shows that ur not trying to move on on purpose or make ur ex jealous.
2007-08-30 18:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by weird...just a little... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She broke up with you over this guy. That's significant. She's probably crushing on this guy.
You are in the right. You sound like you were doing exactly what a good boyfriend should be doing: looking out for the welfare of your girlfriend.
For the time being, I think you should act coldly to her, even though it's gonna hurt like hell. But it's probably best for you to back off because the more you crowd a girl, the less likely she'll want to get back with you. If you give her space, it allows her to view you from afar and decide if she wants to go back to you or stick with this homewrecker.
I hope everything will work out for you guys. Wish you the best of luck!
2007-08-30 18:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by Chocolate_on_the_Moon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is say good bye to her and get on with your life and find someone new. You met her so you can meet someone else. Just believe in yourself and meet someone new. She isn't worth the time worrying about her or wondering if she will ever be nice to you again. FORGET ABOUT HER. Most likely she's going to treat you badly and you don't need that kind of crap in your life. START OVER!
2007-08-30 18:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space. You sound like a good boyfriend and she needs to realize that good boyfriends are not easy to come by. Maybe when she does spend time with this other guy and sees how you have other "friends" who appreciate you...She'll open up her eyes and see you for what you really are...A good guy with a heart of gold.
2007-08-30 18:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by Bunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, you shouldn't trust Cody... But you can't keep her from seeing him... Let her go hang out with him, and when he makes a move she will either run back to you or hook up with him. If she is going to get with him then it really doesn't matter cause that makes her a dumb whore, and you shouldn't care anyways...
2007-08-30 18:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by Yates M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now if you trust her then thats all you need
Let her have a friend
But if you dont trust him then you dont trust her
you dont need to be with her if you cant handle her haveing male friends.
Look in the long run its best to know now that later
2007-08-30 18:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by ramona r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a lot to learn about other people, i hope you realize that you may have been fooled all along, might as well ignore her, and not expect her back, and if she does come back to you, be very cautious of her, she's probably in it for the "special treatment", no matter what the source.
2007-08-30 18:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that you have already lost her and move on. Trust me. Your next girlfriend will be even better. Just keep trading up.
2007-08-30 18:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick a fork in your relationship because it is done! Over. When a girl does that stuff she is finished with you. All you will get from now on is heart ache.
2007-08-30 18:21:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋