my 18 month old got kicked out of daycare today for biting. last week he go kicked out for hitting. 4 days a week he does good but there is always one day a week. How do I stop him from being so mean to other kids.
2007-08-30 11:04:09 · 9 answers · asked by Heather M 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
ok sorry i didn't specify it is the daycare at the gym where i work out in the mornings. I'm a stay at home mom so he gets lots of attention. He is kinda mean to his older sister also.
2007-08-30 11:14:13 · update #1
Please don't hit or bite him back!
Hitting and biting are common at his age. He knows he isn't supposed to do it, but has no idea why. Toddlers are little narcissists who don't understand that other people have feelings too. They also have few problem-solving skills and don't talk well, so they get frustrated easily and lash out.
Prepare yourself for months of "hitting hurts," "biting hurts," "hands are for hugging," "show love," "we kiss with our mouths," "we bite our food, not our friends," and "pull your OWN hair." Try to teach your son to be kind and loving to his friends (and sister), and ways to solve his problems without violence. Eventually he'll get it.
If you see him biting or hitting himself, let him. It's a great time to remind him that biting and hitting hurt. He may even bite himself, then cry and ask you to kiss it.
I would think that the child-care professionals at the day care should be able to help you with this, instead of kicking him out. Poor kid.
2007-08-30 11:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Meghan H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The day care staffs at places like that are usually poorly trained and are incapable of dealing with normal disruptive behavior. Toddlers bite and hit, mostly because their language skills aren't good enough to express what they want and they are easily frustrated. Perhaps a sitter in your home or a mall family day care home would be a better alternative for the few hours you need care.
2007-08-30 14:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by EC Expert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since when does a kid get kicked out of daycare for hitting or biting? Thats a common problem...i dont think they kick kids out for it...are you just taking him from daycare to daycare? No wonder he acts up, thats traumatizing to a kid...try talking to the director, as an adult...dont be a bi+ch, dont throw a fit, just talk to her, and see if shell keep you kid in there instead of kicking him out of ANOTHER daycare...theres gotta be more to the story here...
2007-08-30 11:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know the teachers at the gym dont really do this but it would be really good to do at home. use positive reinforcement.
when he bites tell him "we dont bite our friends/sister,mommy,daddy.ect. our friends are for hugging. if you want to bite you may bite a ball or a pillow. dont tell him no alot. or that he cant do something instead tell him something he can do. if he is hitting, you may want to put him in time out but only 1 minute per age year. after he is calm tell him that when he hits that hurts. he can hit a pillow or stuffed animal. hope this helps if you have any questions feel free to email me. good luck!
2007-08-30 15:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the teachers at the daycare and tell them to put him in timeout whenever he is seen being mean to another child or an adult. Also when your at home and you see the behavior put him in time out r if that don't interest you find a way to get to him.Tell him firmly that its not nice to do as such. OR give him i little smack on the hand when ever you see that kind of behavior.If you have to stop bye at there daycare just to check up. The best thing is to Watch what you do or say around him and watch wat he watches on TV, and Wat other ppl say or do around him...at his age he picks those things up really easy.If it gits to it bite him.(not hard)he will learn
hope i help any. good luck
2007-08-30 11:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by bad ass 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Roll play.
That will show him how to act and what to say when he feels he has to hit or bite.
Make it a fun learning experience. 18 months, he will not remember everything so keep doing it a little everyday.
Talk to him about different ways to act. He may not understand but he will catch on.
Undoing habits is not quick, but with encouragement and praise, he will soon learn and be able to talk about his feelings or talk about the other kids and what they are doing that annoys him.
2007-08-30 11:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by Blessed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you and anyone else your child is around are good role models. Does he see anyone hitting or being aggressive around him? Is there any way that you could stay home with your son more? He's probably looking for attention.
2007-08-30 11:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to teach him that it is wrong to bite and hit others. Tell him NO! when you catch him doing it.
2007-08-30 11:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO HIS DOCTOR MAY NEED MEDICINE TO HELP HIM ALONG
2007-08-30 11:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 5⤋