Cheater???

Question

When I told my friend that I have a boyfriend...she quickly started freaking out when I said the name. That was when she told me that her friend was cheated on by him. And that in jr.High that he would pay her to get her to hook him up with girls. I just....can't believe that.

Sure we've been BF and GF now for a week....but we've been friends for like 4months and I just can't see him doing that. I can't bring myself...to actually believe that his warm smile,can be so desieving...that...his hug ment nothing. I can't see him. After all he's the one that goes up to me when he sees me in the hallway and i'm in my own world. I just...can't see him doing that. And even if that is true....I want to hear it from him...and I still don't want to let him go. After the memories we shared as friends and couples. Besides...I want to give him a chance. What would you do in this situation?

He's been my friend for like 4months before we started going out and being BF and GF...I just can't see him doing that at all. he's a really sweet guy. I don't know I mean...he's like the person I look forward seeing through the whole day and just being with him...washes away everything from my past to present and I feel as though...I actually can walk in this life...standing strong because of him.

He's been my friend for like 4months before we started going out and being BF and GF...I just can't see him doing that at all. he's a really sweet guy. I don't know I mean...he's like the person I look forward seeing through the whole day and just being with him...washes away everything from my past to present and I feel as though...I actually can walk in this life...standing strong because of him.

I believe in no sex before marriage. and he does too.

Answer 1

It is only week. Leave him alone. One problem less.

Answer 2

Yeah, sure! give him a chance to keep on using you. I have seen this before. You just cannot believe that he could lie and do whatever it takes to get you to take off your panties.
How old are you? 15! A week's worth of relationship makes up for everything.
Wake up, young lady! Your friend was trying to help. It may have not been what you wanted to hear!
He isn't about being a man. He's about getting you out of your panties. I tell you what, if you can sleep at night after telling my 13 year old daughter. "Oh yeah, baby, he really cares about you!" then email me. I'll tell the truth.
Where is he going to be when you are pregnant and you need some emotional support?
Where is he going to be when you are in labor?
Little girls, keep your panties on. Don't let him have what he wants.
I'm sorry, sweetie, I have a daughter, and I know what teenage boys want.
peace and love and happiness
Marty

Answer 3

I wish I could tell you that he probably has changed. But it is doubtful. Charming people can be cheaters. In fact, often charm is just deceit. You act like the fact that he pays attention to you is a sign of love. That is just a tiny bit of it. Be more secure and put up a wall for a bit and make him explain his past.

Or perhaps the best thing that could come of this is that you will get hurt, move on and learn something about relationships.

Answer 4

You're unsure with everything about this guy. That should tell you right there that you aren't THAT interested in him. I'd go ahead and just keep doing what you're doing. He may approach you, but you don't have to welcome his flirting. Once a cheater, always a cheater. And that is not an old wives' tale. It's an old divorced wives' tale.

You're young. You can do better than this guy. Wait for someone better to come along.

Answer 5

You might not be able to "see him doing that" but it is possible. Not saying that you should pass it off as jealousy but there could be some truth to the situation. Just listen to that little voice in your head and think logically. No need to really ask him, hes not going to answer truthfully and dont be surprised if he tries to deflect the way the conversation is going...

Answer 6

You know him best, but that is your perspective.

He might actually be that good at deceiving that you have no clue.

I would just step carefully from here on out, but I wouldn't jump to any conclusions.

Sounds like you're young, a lot can happen, but always keep in a mind... Once a cheater always a cheater, it's just like a habit, you can't change it.

Answer 7

Confront him and tell him what your friend said. Give him the chance to defend himself before you condemn your relationship.

Then it's up to you to decide who you trust more.

People change. And people do stupid things they aren't proud of. That doesn't mean they don't deserve happiness... it just means they need to mend their ways. Sometimes it takes just the right person to make a person want to be better.

Answer 8

The past is the past. You don't know the circumstances of that past relationship. I don't necessarily agree that because he cheated on someone else that he will cheat on you. If you like him then give him a chance.

Answer 9

Cheating behavior can change. I cheated on my first wife, but refused to do so with my second. You don't know what the circumstances were surrounding his relationship with her. I would say take it slow and cautious. Make sure it's not just that your friend is interested in him and trying to make you drop him, so she can have her chance.

Good luck, hon.....

Answer 10

Uhh is there a chance that your friend might be lying to you?? I suggest you do a little more background check on this guy yourself before you jump onto anyother conclussion.....

Answer 11

Ask HIM! Everyone should be given a fresh new start, but if a spade is a spade, better you know now than later. So ask HIM! If it doesn't ring true what he tells you...then he is a spade. Dump him.